Hypnotherapy can help you
- Does Commitment phobia hold you back
- How much better will things be
- With fear of commitment banished?
- When you can develop your relationship
- Without fear or anxiety,
- Hypnotherapy and NLP works.
Hypnotherapy And NLP To Help Resolve Commitment FearsHypnotherapy and NLP offer you a potent combination of proven approaches to help you start to feel comfortable with yourself and all aspects of your relationships with others, including commitment.
How Will You Help Me End My Fear Of Commitment?Well, this kind of relationship anxiety results typically from learned experiences, often from childhood, such as separation divorce, or trauma.
The good news is that we don’t have to spend much time at all talking about the past, your childhood, your parents, and so on, because however this fear began, the cause is irrelevant to the cure. The experiences we have in life result in us developing conditioned responses to others and to our environment. In other words, ways of thinking and feelings such as being afraid of commitment become habits.
Treatments To Help You In Your Life Right Now, And Also Into The FutureThese habits can be repatterned, often surprisingly quickly. Fears of loss, rejection or abandonment are commonly quoted as symptoms for this fear (phobia). Sometimes the person will fear that they are in danger of being swamped or dominated in a relationship, and that their freedom is at risk. The way that we use hypnotherapy and NLP to resolve these kinds of issues is very direct. We look and listen to how these fears manifest in consciousness and then begin to train you to get control of your thoughts, of your imagination.
More Training Than TherapyWhilst therapy often seeks to unravel the past and get you to come to terms with the events in your life, many people find themselves going round in circles with their therapist or counsellor, having the same conversations week in, week out, getting nowhere.
The past is important, it has resulted in you being here now, being the person you are. If past events are haunting you, we will certainly work with you to rapidly put things into perspective. More important than the past is the present, how you are thinking in the here and now, moment by moment, and also the future, how you are imagining things will be for you. This is where we work, using a whole host of hypnotherapeutic and Neuro-Linguistic techniques to begin to help you to feel better. Much better.
Symptoms Of Fear, Or Phobia Of CommitmentThese are just some examples of the things people have said to us over the years. You are an individual, so central to our approach is the way that we with you to discover what you are doing in your own mind. Then we use techniques that are the best fit for you.
- Fear of rejection
- Being afraid of abandonment
- Being scared of intimacy
- Trying too hard to find the ‘Perfect Partner’
- Being too critical of your partner
- Being too aloof
- Being deliberately hurtful to your partner
- Being too critical of yourself
- Being scared of being noticed
- Fear of being engulfed in a relationship
- Being afraid to have sex
- Repeatedly falling for a person who isn’t interested
- Repeatedly ending and restarting a relationship
- The avoidance of committing to almost anything
I am contacting you in order to seek help with my ‘commitment or relationship’ phobia. I’ve read up on the subject quite a lot, books by Steven Cartel and Julia Sokol, yet despite the knowledge, I still feel powerless when in a relationship.
I’ve just ended a relationship today, or more like made it extremely difficult to carry on. For some reason, I tend to be attracted to women older than me. My last partner was 44, I am 32. I tick most boxes regarding to symptoms of commitment phobia.
I just couldn’t bear the physical/mental aspects of it like:
– Fear and panic attacks
– Anxiety, a constant feeling of unease
– My cognitive abilities suffer a lot, thinking clearly or solving problems become extremely hard
– Irregular heartbeats/shallow breathing
I also find it hard to socialise, feel like running away from my partner, just cutting off emotionally completely, feeling I can’t be myself if I carry on with her.
Even though I am aware of the damage I do, I don’t think I can fully comprehend the extent and depth of it. My last partner was everything I find great in a woman, and her age only became an issue once my phobic symptoms had started, when I start looking for excuses for an easy out.
I do want to get to the bottom of this, as I am aware of the costs of not dealing with this. Missing out on such an important aspect of life is crippling and I know I am someone who does want to have a deep, open and happy relationship that is a source of strength and joy.
My question is about NLP. Is it treating the symptoms or the root cause of the problem? I think the way I act has a lot to do with my relationship with my parents, especially my mum.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
NLP tends to sort the symptoms of the problem, and basically if you dont have the symptoms then you dont have the problem. The symptoms ‘are’ the problem. However, many of us use a range of healing modalities and for some people resolving ‘where it all came from’ can be really useful.