‘How Are You Going To Help Me Reduce My Stress Levels?’

‘Stress Management’ is the expression often used by people who offer tools to help you feel less stressed and to cope with stressful feelings as they arise.  We are much more interested to work with you to help to train your thinking so that you are more resourceful in the first place, so that there will be less (or no) stress to ‘manage’.

What Is ‘Stress’?

Well, we could devote several pages to this, there are dozens of definitions. Some talk of ‘positive stress’ being good for you. Then there are environmental stresses, and stresses caused by long work hours, illnesses, bereavement, depression etc etc etc.

The first thing we will do is ask you what the word ‘Stress’ means to you, and what you would like to experience in its place.  We do understand that you don’t want to feel stressed out, who does? However, the key to improving the way you think and feel is not to focus on the way you have been thinking and feeling, but rather to help to aim your mind towards more flexible and resourceful ways of thinking.

Treatments Tailored To Your Situation, And To Your Mind

Because the word ‘stress’ can mean so many things to so many different people, it’s impossible to say what sort of techniques we will use to help you. The one thing that our approaches do have in common, though, is directness. In many ways we are the opposite of counsellors. Whilst counselling does have its place and can be very effective, we prefer to use those techniques that retrain the mind directly. So we don’t spend any time going over the past (unless it is the way you are thinking about the past that is ‘stressing you out’).

Putting Things Into Perspective

We look and listen and work with you to help you gain control over your imagination and to help you to put things in perspective. We work with such things as the literal way that you imagine things, the sort of tone of voice you use when you talk to yourself and we aim to connect you with the internal resources you already possess, but have been unable to access.  Most people have experienced times in their lives when they have been calm, resourceful, and confident so we work to connect these states of being with the areas in your life where you are currently stressed – joining the dots…

 We Will Do Our Best To Help You

So do contact us and let us know what it is that you want. We do understand that you don’t want to feel stressed. The question is, what do you want instead…..?