How Will You Help Me To Have More Self Esteem?
The first thing we will do is establish exactly what you mean by 'low self esteem'. It is such a big generalisation that it can mean so many things to so many different people. For the purposes of letting you know the sorts of areas we may well be able to help you with please read through the following list:
- Lacking self confidence
- Lacking self belief
- Feeling overly emotional and upset much of the time
- Feelings of depression and anxiety
- Not being able to accept a compliment
- Frequently imagining that others are better than you
- Focusing on the 'negative' in a situation
- Worrying about what other people are thinking about you
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Fearing failure
- Feeling that you don't deserve any better
Once we have established more accurately what low self esteem means to you we will begin to get to the important questions like, 'what do you want to be experiencing instead of the problems'?
The Cure To Low Self Esteem Is Nothing To Do With The Problems
The keys to better feelings, to 'more self-esteem', if you like, are in the ways you are thinking about things, and the things you are focusing on. For example, if, as you are walking down a street, your head is down, and all you are doing is thinking about a store in that street that you hate, then that's the only place your legs will take you. You can't walk to your favourite store until you have the thought of doing so. Our job, metaphorically speaking, is to get your mind to look up, see which stores you could go to that would be more fun, more appropriate etc, and then simply get you to go there!
Low Self Esteem And Internal Dialogue
The way we work with someone to train their mind, using the best we know from the fields of hypnotherapy and NLP, is not simply about getting you to see where you want to be and getting you to go there. Most people with self esteem issues tend to be very good at beating themselves up by talking to themselves, in their mind, in a range of tones from 'self-criticism' though to 'blind panic'. You can be trained to be more in control of the way that you talk to yourself, thereby improving the way you feel about yourself
Direct Techniques For Fast Results
We aren't counselor's; quite the opposite, in fact. We won't spend much time talking to you about the past and are much more interested in the way that you think, the patterns of thought that manifest in your consciousness. We will do our best to resolve these issues for you as quickly as possible.
