The fear of intimacy is something that can be overcome. It tends to arise when people either fear rejection and/or fear being engulfed and controlled by another person. So being afraid of intimacy is really the fear of having our feelings hurt.

These are normal emotions and most of us will have experienced them to a greater or lesser extent in our relationships with others whether they be parents, siblings or partners.

Sometimes we inadvertently blow these feelings out of proportion and when we do we damage our ability both to mature emotionally and to relate in a deeper emotional way with others.  Some will leave a relationship rather than risk these ‘bad’ feelings. For many, this fear creates behaviours that keep others at a distance and the relationship either becomes stale and/or is ended by their partner.

How Are You Going To Help Me To Stop Being Afraid Of Intimacy

By focussing on where you want to be, and how you want to think and feel, you learn to begin to develop increased self reliance. We do not counsel you, we train you.  You learned the fear of intimacy, inadvertently, and we will help you to unlearn it, for good.

We start with questions like ‘what stops you being more intimate in your relationships’ and rapidly move to ‘what will happen when you are able to be more intimate in your relationships?’. Where you have been is where you have been.  What is much more important is where you are going.

So please do not hesitate to contact us to find out more about in what ways we can help you to be more intimate, more comfortably.