It Doesn't Matter Why You Have Been Lying
Compulsive lying is usually fear driven, the person being simply scared to tell the truth. Whether this fear is seemingly to 'stop someone else feeling bad', or not, the compulsive liar essentially lies to stop him/herself from feeling bad, or occasionally to make themselves feel good (the boast that is a lie).
Lying Can Seemingly Destroy A Person's Life
Most people have made a 'white lie' now and again. It is when lying becomes habituated that the real problems start. We have successfully helped people whose entire lives had, in their words, fallen apart, people who had lost friends, jobs, marriages, all because they had got into the habit of lying.
The cycle of fear-lying-regret-fear etc can be powerful.
However, by using a combination of neuro-linguistic's and hypnotherapy we aim to get you outside these loops as fast as possible and one of the side effects of successful treatment is that the person rapidly gains increased self respect when the lying habit truly is a thing of the past.
What exactly will do you to help me stop my problems with lying ?
Well, we combine techniques from Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnotherapy to directly retrain your mind so that you get out of the habit of lying. Neuro-Linguistic Programming sounds very complicated but actually the techniques are quite simple. We show you how to become the director of both your thoughts and your imagination, because it is the way that you think that produces the feelings that you have. And the human mind does like to make things automatic. Anything you do enough times gets easier and easier to do, whether it's changing gear, typing your name, changing a nappy, doing a button up, and....... lying. It becomes a habit. We help you to break that habit.
Is it like counseling?
Certainly not. You can make wonderful and useful changes in your life with help from certain counselors, for certain issues. Our work is almost the opposite, it isn't a chat about your problems and us listening to you talking about them for hour after hour. We do listen to you, but we are far more interested in the way that you are thinking than what you are thinking about. You could more accurately consider us to be trainers, rather than therapists, and you can be trained to tell the truth, be more relaxed and confident, and make the problems and heartaches associated with compulsive lying truly a thing of the past.
How long will it take you to get me to stop lying?
Usually it takes 2 - 3 hour long sessions to resolve this compulsion, though if you have other issues like chronic anxiety or depression then it may take longer. Occasionally we can sort this problem out very rapidly indeed.
