Hypnotherapy Blog

Slight of Mouth, Barack Obama's speech

noreply@blogger.com (Wise Women seek advice) — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:09:00 +0000

Look at the use of language patterns and persuasion in this piece it's

quite awesome!! You also need a very skilled person to deliver it

perfectly!

This is an excerpt from a speech by Senator Barack Obama - New Hampshire

Primary Tuesday, January 8th, 2008 Nashua, New Hampshire

Comments on the persuasive power of this are in (italics).

We've been asked to pause for a reality check. (This is an indirect

suggestion to "pause" i.e., to stop thinking or rationalizing) We've

been warned against offering the people of this nation false hope.

(:"We" implies a "you and me" thus uniting us. From our detached "pause"

we can look at the concept of false hope.)

But in the unlikely story that is America, ("unlikely" allows us to feel

unique and special as Americans, linking us to the myth of a people who

thrive against all odds) there has never been anything false about hope.

(This is a different use of the words "false" and "hope" and reframes

"false hope" in a new way) For when we have faced down impossible odds

(these impossible odds are unmentioned but assumed and affirms that we

are unique) ; when we've been told that we're not ready, or that we

shouldn't try, or that we can't, generations of Americans have responded

with a simple creed that sums up the spirit of a people.

Yes we can.

(A call to action but even more; a call to rebellion against those who

try to discourage us.)

It was a creed written into the founding documents that declared the

destiny of a nation.

(Evocation of "destiny"; that we are the central figures around whom

great things can occur.)

Yes we can.

It was whispered by slaves and abolitionists as they blazed a trail

toward freedom through the darkest of nights.

(Offering anecdotal evidence to support our rebellion against any

oppressor.)

Yes we can.

(Repetition. Hammer it into the mind and link it with powerful and

positive emotions.)

It was sung by immigrants as they struck out from distant shores and

pioneers who pushed westward against an unforgiving wilderness. (More

strong images of perseverance against security and reason.)

Yes we can.

It was the call of workers who organized; women who reached for the

ballot; a President who chose the moon as our new frontier; and a King

who took us to the mountaintop and pointed the way to the Promised Land.

(Wow! This one is POWERFUL! Without stating who the "King" is it

providing clues of "mountaintop" and "the Promised Land" and he allows

us to connect the dots on our own. This makes us to feel as if we have

knowledge of an inner secret.)

Yes we can to justice and equality. Yes we can to opportunity and

prosperity. Yes we can heal this nation. Yes we can repair this world.

Yes we can. (Powerful use of repetition.)

And so tomorrow, as we take this campaign South and West; (in itself

this brings people back to earth... to the reality of the campaign. This

would be bad if it were not for the preceding emotional high we've been

brought to) as we learn that the struggles of the textile worker in

Spartanburg are not so different than the plight of the dishwasher in

Las Vegas; that the hopes of the little girl who goes to a crumbling

school in Dillon are the same as the dreams of the boy who learns on the

streets of LA; (This creates the feeling of bonding between different

people. A feeling that we are not so different from one another.) we

will remember that there is something happening in America; that we are

not as divided as our politics suggests; that we are one people; we are

one nation; and together, (Providing three ways of saying "we are one

people" and thus clobbering us with repetition again) we will begin the

next great chapter in America's story with three words that will ring

from coast to coast; from sea to shining sea ("coast to coast; from sea

to shining sea" evokes patriotic memories of the song "God Bless

America" ... all without saying it explicitly!) – Yes. We. Can.

(Yes, we can! There is little more persuasive than a simple phrase

repeated and instilled with emotion. It is the same effect that

Martin Luther King with "I have a dream.")

Bulimia - A special focus

noreply@blogger.com (Wise Women seek advice) — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 00:44:00 +0000

Bulimia, A Clients Story

"I started feeling bad about myself as far back as I can remember. I know there was a time where I was just a happy little kid, but I can't remember what that felt like.

I can remember the first time I did it, it grossed me out, and yet when I'd vomited up all the Christmas dinner I'd had that night I remember saying to myself...."they are all too drunk to notice" Recently a person at work (I don't work now, I couldn’t get out of bed anymore and lost my job) said to me she was thinking of trying it. I said to her in a voice I didn't recognize "You don't want to go there". I felt a shutter going down my body and I knew I was in so far I couldn’t see my way out.

My body was swelling, it seemed heavier than ever, I couldn’t sleep, I didn’t want to shower because I’d have to touch my body, and I hated how it felt. I was in a physical form that was foreign to me. I hated myself, my family, my life and I couldn’t get it to stop.

I'd never done any drugs, or addictive substances so when I realized this "caught" feeling was an addiction, it not only surprised me, it scared me!

I was foggy in my thinking. I only thought about where, when, how to get free of others so I could. All my thoughts directed me to the images of me running through stores and grabbing food and stuffing my mouth until I was soon after purging! I didn’t care about throwing up anymore, I never felt full, I always felt empty, even the smallest amount of food inside me felt wrong.

After a while I got more focused on my process. Greater planning. I had a lot of stories running in the back ground of the images I was looking at. Mostly food, everything was big images, pizza's so big you could use them for magic carpets! Muffins the size of space ships...then I saw all the foods there, moving towards me as if they were enticing me to grab them ....

Sometimes my parents faces came in over the foods...but seeing my dads sad eyes or moms anger just drove me to get back to what I was happier to view. My next binge

As soon as I opened my exhausted eyes in the morning, the inner commentary began...and never in the way that guy on "What the Bleep Do we Know" would say of "how he liked to create his day," what a joke. My inner voices were reminding me instantly of the dreaded day ahead. Oh there was a little weak one there in the back ground...suggesting in a rather high pitch "maybe things will be better today", but I squashed that one so fast with the images of last nights binge, the smell of vomit still in my hair, the taste and feel of the acid in my mouth...and all I wanted was last nights left overs to fill the aching sinking feeling inside me.

I knew I was in trouble, I couldn't even think of the last real conversation I'd had with anyone, heck I couldn't even remember clearly the details of yesterday! My parents were so frustrated with me and so afraid of what I was doing and doing to myself, they started hiding food, watching me, like I was a caged animal, and yet I had no where else to go.

Taking the pills seemed a logical way out so I did. Waking up in the hospital and monitored for a week was heaven, I couldn't do anything, and food was monitored for me. Slowly I felt better, but at the end of the week they discharged me and I knew that last day all I was thinking about was where to get the food to binge again. It was my only thought. They set me up with a psychiatrist. It was ok however, talking about it over and over again just made me want to keep doing it and I did, I was right back into it and everyone was so angry with me.

It's like talking to an alcoholic about all his binges - all I could think of coming out of each session was where I was going to get the food. It helped a little...but the 45 minutes a week really I was still sinking back into my darkening world, and I knew it. They gave me medications, that just made my head even fuzzier and I felt almost numb.

My dad found JBW on the web site and suggested I check it out. I called, and then called back and finally decided to take a chance on Kathy because I honestly didn't know what else to do.

And I know today, you probably don't realize you've given me back my life and me and I'm so grateful! Thank you, from everything I am."

It works, NLP is brilliant at unpacking addictive behaviors and restoring "normal" quickly without reviewing the endless past looking for the culprit. Mothers often feel it's their fault, fathers are desperate, as the family slowly comes unraveled...so when they see the resultant changes their daughters (and yes, some sons), go through...there can sometimes be a little residual - "hey what happened here? I thought this was really hard for you to stop?"

Don't be fooled, it was about the hardest thing your daughter will do and when she does it for herself it becomes the cornerstone of her strength and personal power as she regains her life again.

NLP can offer up the solution, the transformation and the life skills to maintain herself the rest of her life, and that’s all we do for her…teach her how to do it for herself.

My program is a full eight sessions with three months following of support via Email, Phone & SKYPE to ensure she breaks forever with the inner addictive patterns and knows just how to help herself if life gets too overwhelming.

Kathy Welter Nichols.
Just Be Well-Team Canada

NLP Strategies for shifting corporate stress

noreply@blogger.com (Wise Women seek advice) — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 08:04:00 +0000

SOME TIPS FOR MANAGING STRESS DURING TIMES OF CHANGE:

NLP & Hypnosis can assist you with strategies for stress during times of great change. NLP is like the primary operating system a computer uses, only that computer is our brain. When we overtax it with stressors and we don’t provide for alternatives to help it maintain optimum processing functionality, we begin to use up brain cells. It’s like never turning the computer system off, things never “clear” completely. There are super easy ways to do this, and NLP offers strategies to help you create more of what you want while reducing the stress that you don't want.

So here’s the thing, what are the chances that this situation has been presented to you right now, so you could learn some new strategies about how you work and how you might learn to do things a little differently that might give you some different results?

Think about guys like The Donald…how does he manage 20 corporations and not lose all his hair? He’s got a winning strategy. How does any corporation grow beyond it’s owners and become something more than they ever envisioned? Strategy.

I learned about myself an amazing strategy, and it works for me in some things, but in other things it’s not been very helpful at all, so I changed the strategy for some things, while retaining the old one for the things it worked great with. At first it seemed a little mind bending as my mind wanted to use the old practiced strategy for everything, but then I saw the benefits and I started working more and more with the new strategy and wow, now I can see even the old strategy would work better and more consistently using the new one!

And it's just behaviors, just learned process's and what if there is a better way and what if you can know what that is and utilize it in your life quickly and effortlessly?

Life is easier than we think and often we think we have to work hard, play hard to get ahead…but as you look around there seems to be more and more guys like The Donald around; having fun, enjoying life and running a lot of business through his companies without an obvious amount of stress….why not do what they are doing?

Didn’t you learn systems at university? So what stops you from learning new things now?

Tips For Personal Stress Release:

Use one of our MP3's or CD's to go to sleep at night. You will sleep deeper and your brain will allow itself to reset during each night, instead of sleeping lightly and tossing and turning!

You should notice a difference within a few days.

Benefits: Sharper mind, clearer thinking, easier to process, less distractions, easier to focus, less errors, sharper timing….

Less stress response to daily small things and noticing rather quickly that even the big issues don’t really bother you as much

While doing two jobs at once, you will need to plan additional care for self:

**Key: What are you doing for yourself, every week? At least one time a week something just for you that you really love…

When was the last time you just spent a day in bed, reading, eating, sleeping a “down day” where you weren’t SICK at home?

When doing multiple jobs you will need extra rest, and sleeping is key, as it restores cells in the body – especially the brain - the MP3 will give you deeper sleep and this is really helpful however, you also need to do some things for yourself that help you feel like your life is not all WORK.

FUN – plan some fun that you like, not getting together with friends, but stuff you want to do, that takes NO WORK on your part - but just is fun for you. If you can’t think of anything, remember a time when you felt great, felt happy, felt lighter and full of happiness – what were you doing? Then do that. If it was on a holiday somewhere – then what were you doing when you felt great, replicate that at home. You don’t need location, you need the activity that makes you happy.

EXERCISE: when you are really busy this seems to be the first thing out the door, or left at the door. I’ll exercise when I have more time. And yet studies show in a critical time this can assist in many areas of bodily function to improve performance and mental power. It aids in breathing, and relaxation and allows for the release of endorphins (the feel good chemicals of the brain)

Take a look at Obama, he’s 24/7 on the trail right now and he’s exercising every moment he gets shooting hoops. Cardio is good for the brain as well as the heart. Don’t make it big exercise, or difficult to do, just like Obama, he’s exercising in between the speeches and the meetings, so maybe 20 minutes three times a day. – Walk the dog, jog around the block in the morning before you shower for work, walk around the block at work during lunch…. On a daily basis this will add up and you’ll start to have more energy, less difficulty breathing and less of a “weight sitting on your chest”. Watch guys like this they are amazing at managing their own strategies….and we can learn from them.

You can use the MP3 at work. Just close the door to your office and listen to it once or twice while at work Simple like that! This will improve your performance at work tremendously, and it feels great! You’ll be clearer in meetings and more focused when working.

Don’t Multi Task A new and very relevant KEY to brain function!

We used to be proud of our ability to multi task, however, they have discovered now, the short function/focus of multi tasking causes long term focus problems and issues with completing tasks and projects. That feeling of “what was I doing?” is a result of having too many balls in the air at one time. Start something, finish it. Then start something else and finish it through. Avoid trying to do several things at once. It burns brain cells and the other way creates them, and strengthens synaptic connections… who knew?

KEY to good business and market planning is to diversify. Same for a person running a company(ies)

Diversify = delegate. As you delegate you add time to your life, and add life to your time! Set up delegations that work, so people are accountable to you and you are not chasing them. This is good training for raising kids too, just as an aside - Teach accountability, I think it’s going to be a new buzz word in business right away! As you teach accountability monitor your own too!

These are starters and I know as you read them you’ll be saying to yourself “darn I knew this, of course, this is right, oh sure I know this one too”Just get started one day at a time, and realize that you can do it all, just not all in the same moment!

Add Leverage: Your wife and family need you, your unborn children and yet to be imagined grand children need you. And I know that’s all too far in the distance so think of it this way:

Your company and the people that work there have placed a lot of faith in you, they also believe that faith in you will mean that when you are asked to do difficult tasks and attend to the details of their bottom line as the company grows, expands and develops you will have the good sense and strong character to know during these times you have to invest in your own physical & mental health and take care of it so you can continue to be there for them and not keel over. Hiring top people also means you know they will be able to manage stress in their lives as well as use their solid brain & training to figure out the moves that will keep the company in solid growth.

If nothing else, know that your employers have that kind of faith in you, and get after off loading the stressors you so you can give them the qualities they hired in you.

And these tips just might save your life too!

Kathy & Harry Nichols, provide one on one sessions for men & women in business today facing the challenges and developing new strategies that are both helpful and resourceful. They are part of the successful team of professionals at Just Be Well Global!

"Magic in Practice" is pure Magic in Birth!

noreply@blogger.com (Wise Women seek advice) — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 02:18:00 +0000

I help women have babies, using NLP and Hypnosis.... And the results are incredible whether birthing at home, in hospitals, water birth or in taxi's... birth is possible without the drama and lamenting we've seen over the past decades!

Magic in Practice, the book by Garner Thomson and Dr. Khan is a gift! I was astounded that birthing "professionals" had no idea about rapport building, or suggestibility in a birthing mother. They had no knowledge of Fractionation and that the labouring mother has indeed established herself in a very deep self induced hypnotic trance through the labouring process. That bright lights, constant interruptions of the mother interrupt this delicate chemical balance in her.

From Dave Elman's text on Hypnosis, his incredible chapter on preparing for Labour & Birth is really all any mother needs to her from her care provider and she'll have a great birth! In fact, Elman quotes his stats from the 1960's as being 90% of cases using hypnosis and trance were experiencing little to no discomfort during birth!

I go a little further, my line up is:

Healthy Baby, Mom labouring for an average of 7 hours, baby and mom bonding during the entire labour and birth, easily attaching and breast feeding, and the finale: In tack Perineum!

Using NLP and Hypnosis I uncover these deep structures and assist a woman out of alignment and out of rapport with TV, MEDIA & negative priming of the medical model, so mothers come to believe in their body, themselves and their baby and have established clear pattern interruptions for those that would dissuade them otherwise. I detail visually and kinesthetically the experiences they will have and add to it, auditory affirmations that guide the woman every step of the way, with a volume selection she has control of.

Accessing their own deeper structure I draw on personal strengths, illicit the areas of fear that are truly irrelevant to their individual births, because they have not happened to them yet! I teach them how to move out of rapport with anything that does not fit their inner image of that calm and peaceful birth. As care providers we call all learn this process, because it’s just positive priming! We’re doing it anyway and understanding the resultant effect of negative priming versus positive priming is what my program is all about.

Based on the work of Richard Bandler & John Grinder who asked a simple question that pointed us all in a different direction:

Instead of "what's going terribly wrong here" they asked "how can we achieve excellence?"

That's what I did within the Birthing Model. I stopped asking what was going terribly wrong and started looking for Magic in Birth!

Very soon thereafter it showed up! Magical Birth! Can you believe it? In 2008 and we have the skills, the inner neurology and the DNA within women to achieve magical birth!

I asked my mothers to stop looking at the "fear packets" out there. I taught them how to move themselves out of rapport with anything that would offer this kind of negative priming during the pregnancy or birth. I asked them to practice relaxation and breathing, and taught both parents about Mirror Neurons and then we had fun with connecting to baby prior to the birth to ensure perfect positioning during labour and birth. ..every time!

I started them thinking and looking at what it might be like if they breathed through the birth, visioning their infant gently making its way into the world. If they held a constant inner dialog of "this is working perfectly" and smiling through each long deep breath focusing on becoming a .....

MOTHER!!!! ????

Wait a minute, maybe that's what's really causing the stress loads here! And sure enough it was, when birthing the woman cannot see herself as the mother of the infant that is about to enter her world!

The Maiden enters her metaphorical birthing pool never to be the same again! Her psyche recognizes the time as initiation, and her dreams show her a landscape of imagery that can be both vivid and real. She is about to change ...forever, as is her own mother and her own grandmother and the line shifts as far back as we can see.

Joseph Campbell (The power of Myth) suggested "Wherever something is coming in, look at what is GOING OUT"

We know the infant is soon to arrive, and is coming in and often that is enough to distract the medical teams from the real work....because this is not what's really going on... this is not the question we apply to the mother....what's going out in her? The maiden is going out, motherhood is coming in....she is about to give birth to herself as a mother.

She is no longer, never again, not this lifetime, the maiden...oh she could be married, but she now has a different role in this world, and no matter how many babies she has, every time she enters the birthing pool, she faces herself again. Often second time moms are struggling with the new infant coming in, and the time lost for the older child. It's underlying theme is still the woman is again about to give birth to herself as the mother of this new child.

“However it remains a choice point and when the brain bi-passes the prefrontal cortex, the reasoning part, and shoots directly to the ancient brain, the flight or flight hormones often take over our choices for us. Then it needs more than reason, and it takes about 1 hour to reabsorb the catecholamine through the system. That’s a long time during labour, often too long and our choices are removed for us.

Michel Odent, the famous French OB said:

“Pay attention to the injustices and cruelties done to an infant at birth by society and you are witness the values of the society itself.”

We are now entering a new phase in humanity. At a very deep core level we all get this….be kinder to each other. Death is an illusion, so is separation and abandonment, however, we continue to feed ourselves regular installments that reinforce our addictions to negative priming

Kathy Welter-Nichols,
Author: MY BIRTH My Way NLP: As a birth model for change....releasing 2009

NLP : A Birth Model for Change

noreply@blogger.com (Wise Women seek advice) — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 02:07:00 +0000

NLP: A Birth Model for Change -

WEBINAR at www.consciouswoman.org hear the latest and greatest on the results for 2008 births using this methodology and parents ecstatic about the results and their experience!

Next presentation December 2008

www.consciouswoman.org and sign up now for this upcoming webinar:

Here what others are saying about the webinar:

"Great to hear Kathy, wonderful" Heather from Australia

"This is wonderful! Keep up the great work, where can I train with you?" Julianna

"This was easier than I thought, and so terrific to be connected to people all over the world! It's awesome". SJ

Get The Life You Want

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:52:00 +0000

It has been a while since Richard Bandler had a book published so I was looking forward to getting my hands on 'Get The Life You Want'.

Now many books by Bandler are based on transcripts of seminars, think 'Using Your Brain' or 'Frogs Into Princes', both co-authored by John Grinder. Either that or they are the early 'Magic In Action' books, hard to read (in my opinion), and not much fun.

So What's This Book All About?

It's divided into sections, with the text written (or probably spoken, by the way it reads), and each section is aimed at dealing with a specific human 'issue', like, say, 'interview nerves'. Then typically there is a submodailty style exercise for you to do to integrate the 'trancey' words of the man himself.

The Exercises

Now some people will find the exercises easy, and some people will find them less easy, and they take a fair bit of practice in any event so my advice is this. If you find them easy then go ahead and do them, If you don't then find an NLP Practitioner who is comfortable enough with them and capable enough to be your guide.

Play

For goodness sake play with the exercises, treat them as a game, for as Bandler once said, 'what happens when people take things seriously is they end up taking things seriously'.

Or Just Read The Book And Ignore The Exercises

That's what I did. I just read it, and then read it again. I spoke to a couple of NLP trainers who said they thought that it was all a bit too basic but firstly this book is aimed at the general public, and secondly, the hypnotic language that RB uses throughout the text is far from basic. It may look straightforward, and is ever so easy to read, but it's far from 'basic'

Will It Sell?

'Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming' is not a nice snappy title like 'I Can Make You Rich', so it probably won't sell as many copies. Which is a shame, because although there's nothing wrong with Paul McKenna's books, 'Get The Life You Want' is so much better.

In my opinion

Stop Panic Attacks: Hypnotherapy For Panic Attacks

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 20:27:00 +0000

Over the last dozen years or so I have seen countess people to get them to stop panic attacks, and as I look back in my mind it’s a question of which stories to share with you.

Panic Attacks And The Businessman

The first that comes to mind was a very high-powered businessman who ran scores of companies (literally) and was in charge of operations whose combined annual turnover was well into the billions. This man had had some kind of virus which had brought on (so the doctors had later told him) shortness of breath, sweating and so forth. When this man experienced those symptoms in a meeting he worried about them (powerfully, he always thought powerfully), thereby making the symptoms worse (shortness of breath, tight chest, dizziness) and within minutes he had collapsed with what everyone thought of at the time as a heart attack.

Panic Attacks Can Sometimes Seem Like Heart Attacks

So an arsenal of super-qualified medics put him through batteries of tests and let him know, to his relief, that he hadn’t had a heart attack, he had had a panic attack.

The Fear Didn’t Go Away

Unfortunately, the knowledge that it wasn’t a heart attack didn’t help him. ‘What if I have another panic attack’ was the thought, and the idea of having a panic attack, the fear of having one, went round and round in his mind. He was OK, he discovered, if he was in familiar situations with people he knew. He was not OK, he found, when he had to go to meetings with people he didn’t know.

Which was, in the main, his job.

That and going out onto the trading floor as the ‘corporate figurehead’ were things he had rapidly learned to dread.

Control And Program The Imagination To Stop Panic Attacks

Panic attacks almost always involve an overblown imagination, or thinking in a very big way, and as I said, he was a powerful thinker, so when he applied his large imagination to the idea of panicking, he was able to produce a substantial amount of adrenalin and fear.

So it was just a question of giving him a sense of perspective, literally getting him to shrink down and distance the thoughts of panic until they didn’t trouble him. It took me two or three hours to do this. Which is not as quick as Richard Bandler sorted a young lady who lived in constant panic for a good reason – she had been on the bus that had been blown to bits on 7/7. For a short article on this by Richard have a look at this - www.happinessmagazine.co.uk - you have to sign up for the first issue but it doesn’t cost anything.

For more information on how I work with people to get them to stop panic attacks go here – Hypnotherapy To Stop Panic Attacks

Debbie Williams, NLP Trainer and part of the JustBeWell.com network, has just released a combined NLP and hypnotherapy recording set – Stop Panic Attacks and you can get this on this website and also here Stop Panic Attacks, from the USA based online shop www.selfhelprecordings.com - the recordings carry a sixty day guarantee,

Stop Compulsive Lying: Hypnotherapy For Lying

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 08:15:00 +0000

Stop Lying: Hypnotherapy And NLP Can Really Help You

One of the most damaging of all personal habits is that of compulsive lying, and through the years I have seen a large number of people who have, to use their own words ‘ruined their lives’ through persistent and often outrageous lying.

Everyone Lies

Well, OK, probably not everyone. Many people, however, will have told a so-called ‘white lie’ once in a while. I myself have occasionally been guilty of telling someone on the phone that my wife is ‘in the bath’, or out shopping, to avoid her having to speak to someone that, at the moment, she didn’t want to speak to. I am not perfect. Who is?

Two Types Of Compulsive Lying

The first ‘type’ of compulsive lying is that kind where someone exaggerates their ‘achievements’. So someone might, for example, make up stories of all of the glamorous places they have visited, people they have met, illnesses they have had, cars they have owned etc etc etc. Usually, of course, this is done from a desire to be accepted, or to be liked or admired and usually, of course, the person gets found out eventually and end up being much less liked and much less admired.

Compulsive Lying To Prevent Bad Feelings

In a ‘clinical’ setting, the most common sort of compulsive lying we get to deal with is that of the person who makes up a lie, often ‘on the spot’, to stop the other person thinking badly of them. Then they have to tell bigger and bigger lies to cover up the first lie and it all spirals out of control.

Compulsive Lying Is A Habit

A bad habit it can be, I’ll grant you. It is still a habit though, and habits can be changed. Hypnotherapy and NLP are brimming with techniques to help people to change habits, to get them out of the automated old responses. In this case, the mind can be trained to ‘automatically’ feel comfortable telling the truth.

Hypnotherapy Can Help People To Stop Lying

If you are one of those people who has suffered from the habit of compulsive lying, because it does usually involve suffering, or if you are the partner of someone who has lied to you time after time, then you need to realise that it is possible for you to change, and the treatments is often very quick and very effective. For further information on how we treat this issue go here Stop Compulsive Lying

Self Hypnosis To Help You To Stop Compulsive Lying

For whatever reason, some of you may not be able to visit a hypnotherapist or NLP trainer for help with this problem. If this is you then you may well find assistance by listening to a good self hypnosis recording. Debbie Williams has just released a new suite of hypnosis and NLP recordings to help and they are available here Stop Lying Self Hypnosis and here Help Stop Lying. They come with a full sixty day guarantee. They are very good, but if you do buy them please make sure you listen repeatedly for best effect..

Is Magic In Practice Really Magic

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:19:00 +0000

The short answer is yes, at least I think it is. I am talking about ‘Magic In Practice’, the new book by NLP Trainer Garner Thomson and Dr Khalid Khan.

For years now I have been seeing clients, have been reasonably successful and have had often, at the end of treatment, had to deal with questions like, ‘Is there a really good book that explains what NLP is? I would love to know more about it?’

And I have answered with words like ‘umm.’

There are a number of good books on NLP

Because there are a number of excellent books out there that illustrate certain aspects of NLP and how it is applied. I particularly like the ones by Richard Bandler. However, the majority of these are transcripts from seminars and so whilst they are wonderful in their way (and I frequently do recommend books like ‘Frogs Into Princes’ and ‘Using Your Brain For A Change’), no one book really ‘did the trick’.

When The Client Is A Doctor And Wants To Know More...

It was particularly frustrating when those clients had been doctors, surgeons, psychiatrists or psychologists. The best way to learn NLP in my opinion, is to do every training that Richard Bandler does over the next couple of years, and repeatedly watch all of his DVD’s and read all of his books. And, if you have the time and the money, also go and get trained by Robert Dilts, Joseph Riggio, John Grinder and Nick Kemp.

Not that many people have the time to do that (or the money, for that matter), and I don’t think many, if any of the medical professionals I have seen as clients actually did so.

My life is a lot easier now as I can simply recommend that these people get the book ‘Magic in Practice’ and read through it a few times, and then, if they are from a medical background, go on one of Garner Thompson’s trainings.

As Richard Bandler says in the introduction, ‘All I can say is: it’s about time...’

He continues, ‘I have for years been very good at modelling successful healers, but have fallen short of providing the science....these gentlemen have gone so much further, I say thank you – and recommend that any Neuro-Linguistic Programmer read this over and over and over’.

The Rainbow Machine

Another excellent work on NLP to emerge recently is Andy Austin’s 'The Rainbow Machine' which is crammed full of information and insights gleaned from years of practice as an NLP Trainer and hypnotherapist, and also from Andy’s previous life as a psychiatric nurse.

It’s a fresh, thought provoking and interesting book that is in turns fascinating, moving and hilarious, and is like a breath of fresh air. It’s a book, when I read it, that I wished I had written. But I didn’t write it, Andy did, and if you are into NLP in any way, shape or form, then simply buy it. It’s brilliant.

Jealousy Stop Being Jealous

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 21:12:00 +0000

Hypnotherapy And NLP To Overcome Jealousy

Hypnotherapy and NLP can be wonderful tools to stop someone being jealous, to retrain the mind to respond differently to those ‘trigger’ situations which previously resulted in the green-eyed monster rearing its head. For more info on how we help with the issue of jealousy go here - Stop Being Jealous

How does NLP and Hypnotherapy Stop People From Being Jealous?

Well, there are so many ways the mind can be retrained; here is an example of one.

‘I am the most jealous woman in the world!’

These were the first words from a woman I saw last year. I doubted that she was the most jealous so I asked her what had lead her to that conclusion.

‘I destroyed my boyfriend’s mobile phone last week’, she answered.

Well this certainly didn’t qualify her for the title of the most jealous person in the world, I had seen many clients who had thrown things out of windows, burnt diaries, broken mobile phones and so forth, and I told her this.

‘No, you don’t understand’, she said, ‘I did it with my teeth!’

I looked into her intense non-blinking eyes and asked her if she had been foaming at the mouth at the time.

For a moment I thought I had pushed it a bit far, she looked angry, but then she laughed and said yes, she probably had been foaming at the mouth.

Her boyfriend had been innocent, naturally

Well, not ‘naturally’, come to think about it. Sometimes there is good reason for jealousy but on this occasion there wasn’t, she had just gone through his text messages whilst he was out and found one that she had misinterpreted. Big time.

‘What do you do for a living?’ I asked her, and she said she was a set designer for theatres and TV.

Good, I thought, here’s someone who makes three dimensional images in her head for a living.

Stop Being Jealous – Use The Theatre Of The Mind

Some people will find the following process seems a bit vague when they do it. Typically, though, people who want to stop being jealous have really well developed imaginations and they tend to be fairly full-on emotionally (when they are angry they are very angry, when they are excited they are very excited, and so forth). This isn’t always the case.

What I said to her was this:

‘Close your eyes and find yourself in a big, empty, comfortable imaginary theatre, sitting in the stalls, several rows back, in the kind of place the director might sit in rehearsals.

Now up on the stage see an actress standing there, an actress who looks exactly like you in every detail. Have her standing there, waiting for direction. Now, in your mind, build a set (it’s what she did for a living, after all), a set which exactly resembles a place where typically you may have had a jealous outburst. Now put the other actresses and actors (if there is anyone else there) on stage too, and have them all standing around waiting for you to tell them what to do.

Now run the first act as a horribly outrageously ham acted amateur production of over the top jealousy. See yourself running up and down the stage with flailing arms and wild hair, screaming and bouncing up and down with steam coming out of your ears until you accidentally fall of the stage into the orchestra pit with a big ‘thump’.’

She was smiling at this point.

So we have achieved ‘disassociation’ and ‘humour’ within moments.

‘Now have some oiled body-builders haul you up out of the orchestra pit and straighten your clothing for you. Now set the scene up again, only this time I want you to have the actress up there on the stage give a totally professional Oscar winning performance as someone who is cool, calm and collected in some situation which previously would have caused extreme jealousy. Now run the scene in your mind’s eye, see yourself being totally the person you would like to be, behaving and acting in an ideal way.’

She found this easy

‘Now, go up onto the stage and stand there in the set so that this time when you see the actress give her Oscar winning performance you can see it close up. Move around the stage and see yourself (the actress) from different positions, left profile, right profile, above, behind and in front. See yourself being truly amazing.
Now step into the actress and be the actress. Run the scene as if you ARE the Oscar winning actress and at the end, turn and see 5000 people giving you a standing ovation and throwing roses onto the stage.’

There was a bit more to the session than this visualisation technique, but she found it very powerful and liberating to be actually in control of her imagination for a change, rather than having it the other way round.

People who want to stop being jealous have unwittingly learned to respond that way. It doesn’t matter when and where they learned jealousy, what matters is they learn to stop being jealous and these sorts of techniques really do help people to get back in control of their mind.

There is also a hypnosis recording here Overcome Jealousy that can help you to get back in control of your mind, and your life.

Vancouver And Toronto Hypnosis Hypnotherapy And NLP

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 09:38:00 +0000

Hypnotherapy, NLP And Hypnosis In Canada

I am delighted to introduce my new website based in Canada - http://www.hypnosis-vancouver-toronto.com/. I say 'my' website but actually it has been designed specifically for some brilliant associates of mine who provide one to one NLP and hypnosis sessions for people in Toronto and Vancouver. Allow me to introduce them.

Harry Nichols - NLP Master Trainer - Vancouver

I have known Harry Nichols for more than ten years and am pleased to count him as one of my best friends. Harry was formerly an apprentice of Richard Bandler (the guy who invented and developed a great deal of the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (some would say almost all of the field but I don't want to get involved in any arguments over who did what - there is more to life...))

Anyway, Harry is the guy whose voice you will hear if you get the excellent, 'Adventures of Anyone' recording by Richard Bandler. Harry brings many skills to personal change work, and operates on many levels. He is brilliant.

Kathy Welter-Nichols - NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist, Healer, Hypnobirthing Expert And Much More - Vancouver

Harry's life partner, Kathy, is a woman of many talents and huge experience and has been working in these fields for more than 20 years. Literally thousands of people have come to her meditation and relaxation workgroups for people suffering from Cancer. Kathy trained with the originators of 'Therapeutic Touch', she is a former Vancouver 'Volunteer of the Year', and is an all round remarkable woman. You can get her recordings from this website here - Kathy Welter-Nichols Recordings

Elizabeth Payea-Butler - NLP Master Trainer - Vancouver

There are very few NLP Master Trainers on the planet who do much one-to-one client work, and we have two of them in Canada. Elizabeth has more than fifteen years experience in client work and is one of the key assistants to Richard Bandler when he conducts NLP trainings in the USA. I am delighted that Elizabeth is part of the JustBeWell.com international team and if you are in the Toronto region then I whole-heartedly recommend that you go and see her

Therapy Or Hypnotherapy Or Hypnosis Or Hypnotist Or What?

I don't want to turn this introduction to the new website into a rant but it does seem bizarre to me that there are a bunch of legal cases in Canada, especially in Toronto, about who is 'entitled' to use the word 'therapy' or 'therapist', or 'therapist' or 'hypnotherapist'. Apparently some psychotherapists think they own certain words and are taking legal action to protect them and to prevent anyone else claiming they do therapy or hypnotherapy. How anyone can think they own a word is beyond me.

What We Do Is More Like Training Anyway

If you consider that the definition of 'therapy' is making someone feel better (stopping them from being addicted, depressed, anxious or whatever), then we are all most definitely therapists. However, if you consider the definition of the word 'therapy' to mean going over the past and talking about how awful things are in the hopes that this will make you feel better, then we are most certainly not therapists.

I am not saying that all psychotherapy is rubbish. There are some wonderful people working in the field of psychotherapy, especailly those using more pragmatic approaches such as cognitive behavioural therapy.

NLP is concerned with where you are at and where you are aiming yourself, not where you have been.

Anyway, these are my opinions, not necessarily Harry's or Kathy's or Elizabeth's they are relaxed about it all and quite happy to do 'hypnosis', rather than 'hypnotherapy', and be 'hypnotists' rather than 'hypnotherapists'.

After all, they are only words, what is being done is what is important, not what you call it ...

BAH (Bingeing, Addictions and Habits)

denis@the18thcamel.com (Denis Niblett) — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 07:35:00 +0000

Having read Steve’s interesting blog regarding a binge drinker, I was about to add my own comments when I found that several ideas and questions kept interrupting me.

I began to realise that I was becoming confused with regard to the term “binge”. It was by now late Friday afternoon and my work for the week was finished – or so I thought. That was when I turned on my PC and started to surf the web. Then the mental work really started.

I found that most authorities agree that binging is “… involuntary over consumption of food or drink”.

So I asked myself, “Is the over consumption due to an addiction to the food or drink?”

More surfing gave the general consensus that addiction is “… a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity”.

“That’s almost the same – just less specific”, I thought. “Perhaps they have got into the habit of doing something to excess”.

Yet more surfing provided the explanation that habits are “… automatic routines of behavior that are repeated regularly, without thinking”.

“Now, isn’t that just like binging, or am I confusing myself with so much high powered thought a the end of a busy week?”

I decided to look a little closer at this, despite the lateness of the day and the part of me that believed it was time to pack in.

Anyway, it is apparent that these three different behaviours have partially interchangeable definitions. After all, an involuntary recurring compulsion to repeatedly over consume alcohol would seem to be the problem which Steve described, whilst at the same time fitting into any or all of the above categories.

In practice, my clients agree with that sentiment. I know this because they randomly interchange the use of these three terms.

For example, I have worked with one person who claimed to be a “habitual liar”, whilst another claimed to be “addicted to telling untruths”. One young lady claimed to have control over her nail-biting until she became stressed, and then she “binged on them until they bled”. Some do not even bother with the ‘name’ of the condition, they prefer instead to use part of the description: “I am a compulsive eater!”

Even more interesting is the fact that an addict can easily be convinced that he actually has a habit; and whilst we all know that addictions are difficult to break, habits are easy to get rid of – at least that’s what they say.

In the same way, most chocoholics (who claim to have an addiction to chocolate) can be convinced that they are really binging on chocolate – it’s just a bad habit they have gotten into.

The circle can be completed by realising that it is not hard to convince a habitual nail biter that they are addicted to the taste of their nails!

The common denominator with all of these people is that they are doing something they want to stop doing – and the number of labels we can apply to that unwanted behaviour will not alter that simple fact. They want to stop doing something no matter what it is called.

Indeed, in many cases I find that the approach which worked for binging last week, works just as well with getting rid of an unwanted habit this week. Next week it possibly will not, and I will find another way to help that particular client. After all, each and every client is unique and deserves a therapy best suited to them.

Allow me to repeat this fundamental fact: it does not matter what label is used to name the unwanted behaviour. What matters is acknowledging that there is an unwanted behaviour, deciding to do something about it, and then doing something about it.

If you realise that you have ‘plogetted’ for too long, or want to stop ‘glunapacifying’, a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist will help you to achieve that aim, even though he or she will not have a clue what you are talking about. The important thing is that you know what you are talking about.

You will not even have to say it is a case of binging, an addiction, or a bad habit - unless you want to.

You already know where to find a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist because you have already read about Just Be Well, haven’t you?

So, if you feel that you want to say “BAH”, what the Dickens? You may as well complete the sentence and say “humbug” as well.

“Bah humbug!” It’s as simple as that.

And then give one of us a call. There is no need to wait until Christmas to make those changes in your life.

Stop Binge Drinking And Drink Moderately

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 10:50:00 +0000

Hypnotherapy and NLP To Stop Binge Drinking

Ah, the scourge of modern society (or one of them). These days the news seems to be full of items of rampaging drunken youths in towns and city centres. I occasionally get a rampaging youth as a client, but more usually they are professional people with steady jobs, and a very bad habit.

Now don't get me wrong. I did my fair share of binge drinking when I was younger. No rampaging though, at least as far as I can recall.

A Classic Case Of Binge Drinking

My favorite binge drinking client to date was a self made millionaire who had an extreme drinking habit. When he was a young man he was a successful trader and got into a cycle of binge drinking and would get blitzed every Friday night.Now this was not really a big deal, he never hurt anyone, it didn't harm his career, he exercised and was very fit, and all his friends were party animals.

As the years went by most of his friends moved on, settled down, had families, and indeed, so did he. He left his job in the City and set up what became a hugely successful company of his own.

He didn't stop binge drinking

Unlike his friends, this man had carried on drinking. Now, he didn't drink alcohol at all during the week, but on Friday nights he would go out and get absolutely hopelessly unconsciously drunk. Sometimes he didn't get home until Sunday. His friends would dump him in a hotel (one he had shares in), and that would be that.

His wife had reached breaking point

His wife had put up with a lot through the years and she had given him an ultimatum. She had told him that if he got drunk ever again then there marriage was over. She had said this before, but he knew that she really meant it this time. The following weekend was to be their big annual family barbecue and literally hundreds of people would be there as usual, so this was going to be one of the few Friday's in the year when he wasn't planning to go out. However, through the years every one of his big home parties had ended him with him passing out with excess alcohol and to have that happen again would spell doom for his marriage

He was half an hour late for a one hour appointment

He hadn’t really been late, he had been sitting outside in his Range Rover for half an hour finalising a deal.

‘Sorry about that,’ he said, ‘if I hadn’t made that call I wouldn’t have made £220 000.00 today.'

‘You won’t mind paying for the full hour, then’, I said.

So I was to have half an hour to sort out the most extreme pattern of binge drinking behaviour I had ever seen. Half an hour wasn’t enough for me to do all the various things I normally do, so I told him we were going to play a game.

‘We are going to talk about this coming Saturday night and how you want things to be,’ I said. ‘You are allowed, during this conversation, to tell me what you don’t want to think, feel or experience a total of three times. After that if you do it again I am going to shout at you.’

He didn’t look impressed. I don’t think anyone normally spoke to him in that tone, except his wife, probably.

‘What good will that do?’ He asked.

‘We can discuss it if you like,’ I said, ‘but if we do we will run out of time. You are here now, you may as well do this.’

He agreed, reluctantly. It wasn’t what he had been expected. He had thought I was going to knock him unconscious into trance and switch the binge drinking switch off in his head. (Believe it or not, even that can work with some people).

So I began.

‘What’s the most important thing about this coming Saturday night?' I asked.

‘That I don’t get drunk, he said. He didn’t even hear himself express the negation.

‘That’s One’, I said.

‘Shit!’ he said.

‘I only want you to tell me what you DO want to happen on Saturday night, that’s the only rule’.

‘I will be more careful,’ he said, through gritted teeth.

‘So what do you want to drink on Saturday?’ I asked.

He thought about it carefully, here was a man who was not used to losing, didn’t like to lose, and was going to do his utmost not to lose.

‘I still want to drink some alcoholic drinks’, he said slowly, and then he bit his lip to stop himself saying anything else. I could almost hear his internal dialogue adding ‘but not too many’. But he didn’t say it out loud.

‘How many alcoholic drinks?’ I asked.

‘About one an hour’, he replied.

‘And what do you think that one drink an hour may be, a pint of vodka?’

‘No’, he said, ‘a glass of beer, or a glass of wine perhaps’.

‘We are in the middle of a heat-wave’, I reminded him, ‘chances are the weather will be warm on Saturday evening and you will get thirsty. What are you going to drink to quench your thirst?’

‘Well I am certainly not...’ he began.

‘That’s Two,’ I interrupted.

‘I didn’t actually say it,’ he objected.

‘It’s my game’ I reminded him, ‘and I make the rules. So what are you going to drink on Saturday night?'

‘Soft drinks,’ he said, glaring at me.

‘Which soft drinks?’ I said.

‘Does it matter?’ He asked.

It mattered, I explained, because I wanted him to start to represent (imagine, think, visualise, plan etc) what he was going to do. He wasn’t going to have to stick rigidly to a drinking plan, but it was important that he thought about things a little more completely. He decided that diet coke and water would be OK. We chatted a bit more and then I reminded him that his friends would not be expecting him to drink moderately.

‘They will bring you drinks,’ I said, ‘They will say things like - Hey Bill (his name wasn’t Bill but I don’t think he would like his real name broadcasted), it’s your party! What are you playing at? Have a beer!’

‘Well I am not going to be silly enough to take any notice of them.’ He said.

‘That’s Three!’ I cried, ‘one more and I get to shout at you.’

I could see he was angry, I wasn’t sure how much he was angry with himself, and how much with me. I pressed on.

‘What time do you want to go to bed?’ I asked.

‘When the party is over,’ he replied bluntly.

‘And what time will that be, do you think?’ I said.

He looked blank. He had never been conscious at ‘party-over’ time, he had invariably collapsed with the drink some time before, generally after doing something dramatic like projectile vomiting into one of his swimming pools. He finally decided that it would be about 2am – 3am. We chatted through likely ‘danger’ times for him and he carefully answered with what he was going to do. Then I asked him another question.

‘How do you want to feel when you go to bed?’

He thought about it...

‘I want to feel like I have had a really had a good party, like I have had an excellent time, drunk alcohol sensibly and not got paralytic for once’.

So I shouted at him. ‘STOP!!!’

I really made him jump, and he wasn’t at all sure how to react. He was annoyed and slightly confused and disoriented, so I just carried on regardless.

‘And when you wake up in the morning, how do you want to feel’, I asked.

He sighed.

‘It would be wonderful,’ he said, 'just to wake up in the morning without a hangover for once.'

So I shouted at him again.

And this time he laughed.

He laughed at me but most of all he laughed at himself. There were tears running down his face. And his half hour was over.

He came back to see me the following week (half an hour late again).

‘What do you want?’ I said, as I always do.

‘I want to continue to be able to control my drinking easily,’ he smiled. ‘I can’t believe how easy it can be when you put your mind to it.’

And that was that. I spoke to him about a year later when he rang to see if I could help one of his friends with an unrelated issue and he told me that the binge drinking had stopped totally, except for one time when he had been on a stag weekend, and that was OK because he had planned to do it.

If you want to stop binge drinking then PLAN what you ARE going to do. Hypnotherapy and NLP are a very potent combination (and we don’t usually shout at out clients!). For more info on how we treat binge drinking issues go here Treatments To Stop Binge Drinking – or for an excellent set of recordings that deal with excessive drinking issues go here Stop Binge Drinking NLP And Hypnosis. It is possible, and often very easy, to retrain the mind out of the habit of binge drinking, I have done this with people on scores of occasions. It usually takes more than just relentlessly getting the client to think about what they are going to do (as opposed to what they are not going to do), but 'planning' is always a core issue.

Stop Binge Drinking is also available froma USA onine store

Bulimia Nervosa Treatments

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 11:30:00 +0000

Treatment Of Bulimia Nervosa - NLP and hypnotherapy

This has become something of a specialist area for me, though I certainly didn’t plan this to happen. It’s just that the results tend to be so positive, so quickly, and I have had so many testimonials from satisfied ex-bulimics, that my work with eating disorders, and especially the NLP treatment for bulimia, has snowballed.

The Marie Claire Article

But it wasn’t until Marie Claire wrote a piece about NLP a few years ago that things really took off. I remember when I got the call.

‘Hi’, the woman said, ‘I am from Marie Claire and we are doing a piece on NLP, we have got someone to do spider phobia and someone to do stopping smoking and we would like you to write something about weight loss’.

We are often approached by the press to help with articles and many of us have been on the radio and some of us have been on TV. Whilst ‘weight loss’ is a hugely important issue (pun intended) I wanted to do something more ‘interesting’ after all, there are lots of methods that work to help someone to lose weight (believe it or not). And anyway, I had just that day had news that the two women for whom I had given treatment for bulimia the previous week had both stopped doing it.

A Piece On How To Cure Bulimia

‘What about a piece on bulimia’, I said, and the journalist thought it was a great idea, all she wanted me to do was provide her with an ex client who was willing to appear in Marie Claire, with a photograph, and tell the world about her recovery.

I put the phone down and thought ‘damn’, where am I going to find an ex client who is willing to do that.’ After all, most people who do, or have done bulimia usually don’t shout about it from the rooftops, and some have never told anyone about their problem (one kept her bulimia to herself for thirty five years...)

By a staggering coincidence (not that I believe in coincidences), a woman called Claire rang me about two hours later.

‘You probably don’t remember me,’ she said, I came to see you about a year ago and you cured my bulimia and I have a friend who wants your help with something else.

‘Claire’, I said, ‘how would you like to be in Marie Claire. She agreed immediately. Sometimes things just fall into place beautifully, don’t you think?

The Treatment Of Bulimia With NLP And Hypnotherapy

And then I thought, ‘how on earth am I going to put what I do into words?’

In the end I wrote a very long piece which is printed in full in the ‘Cure Bulimia’ section of this website, here - Treatment Of Bulimia Article - they only used part of it in the magazine.

Sometimes self hypnosis recordings can be very effective in the treatment of bulimia, have a look at the online shop on JustBeWell.com here Overcome Bulimia or on my USA based site here – Self Help For Bulimia

Please feel free to comment after reading the article and also have a read through the many pages of testimonials from clients for whom this form of treatment for bulimia has worked. Most people who suffer from bulimia find it hard to believe that they can often stop doing it quickly and easily. But they can.

Personal Approaches To The Treatment Of Bulimia

Some of the practitioners on JustBeWell.com will have their own tried and tested methods to cure bulimia so before you decide to make a booking, do have a chat with them about how they will work for you.

Dizziness Treatments

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 11:55:00 +0000

Hypnotherapy And NLP For The Treatment Of Dizziness

We get to see a lot of people to help them to stop being dizzy, to give them our combination of hypnotherapy and NLP treatment for dizziness. We use a variety of approaches that work including training the mind and body to literally become more ‘centred’.

Now over the years we have seen a number of high ranking people from the medical professions. True, NLP is not yet widely accepted within the traditional medical industries but it is bound to be sooner or later for one simple reason.

It works.

Dizziness Treatments Case History: The Dizzy Surgeon

Anyway the first time I saw a surgeon it was to get him to stop being dizzy. Now dizziness is not a good problem for an orthopaedic surgeon to have, some of those operations last for hours. This man had had this problem for years, and it had steadily been getting worse as time had gone by. It had reached the point where he had begun to sway to and fro whilst in theatre, and he was desperate.

Which is why he eventually turned up at my door, I suppose. Mind you, he had spent the previous four years going up and down Harley Street seeing top ENT specialists and consultant neurologists, and he had a host of possible ideas as to why he was suffering from dizziness

Their 'treatments' hadn’t helped his dizziness at all

‘You are my last resort,’ he said, in a resigned tone.

‘Good’, I said, ‘that’s my favourite’. And I went on to explain that I always plan on being people’s last resort. That is, they won’t need to see anyone after me because they will be OK. At least, that’s the plan.

If you want to make dizziness worse, then keep thinking about it!

As he sat in the chair swaying back and forth I asked him if it was the kind of problem where the more he thought about it the worse it got. That’s a trick question really, it’s always like that. Focus on the problem and, lo and behold, it gets worse.

Sure enough his swaying did get worse, and I thought to myself, ‘surely it can’t be this easy’.

The Art Of Being Centred

I got him to focus on a point approximately two inches below his navel, and told him that when his mind started to drift, to bring his awareness back to this point.
Now those of you who are into Japanese based martial arts will recognise this point in the body as something called, in Japan, hara. It’s about where the physiological centre of balance is for the body. It’s where the power comes from when someone punches through a plank, it’s where you ‘move from’ when you get good at Judo or Aikido. And if you are into meditation you may know that the same point in the body is called the sacral chakra by some, and those into Chinese ways may be familiar with it under the name 'dan tien'

I am not saying that these things are the same in these different systems, just related. Anyway, it doesn’t matter what you call it,- this area a couple of inches below the navel,- you could call it ‘Benjamin’ and it would still be there and still be very useful.

A million years ago I did a lot of martial arts myself and I always used to take beginners into the middle of the dojo (training area) and demonstrate this. That is, I would get them to stand with their feet shoulder width apart with one foot slightly in front of the other. Then I would tap them very gently on the top of the head with my finger tip whilst saying ‘think about this, think about this’. After a few seconds of this I would push them very gently on the shoulder.

And they would fall over, or nearly fall over.

Then I would get them to stand in the same way and get them to focus in a ‘tenaciously gentle’ way on 'hara', this point a couple of inches below the naval. If you have your hand resting on someone’s shoulder as they take their awareness into the centre of their body like this you can feel them getting more solid and grounded, much more. It is very tangible.

You can still push them over, especially if they are a beginner, but it takes much more effort.

So anyway I stood the surgeon up and did exactly what I had done all those years ago, I got him to focus on ‘hara’ and the swaying stopped, well virtually stopped.

Breathing Into The Earth

Then I got him to do a powerful breathing technique which involves breathing normally and imagining that the out-breath is powering down through the body, through the feet and deep into the centre of the earth.

And the swaying completely stopped, and he was very impressed.

Then I sat him down and did a range of NLP techniques to get him to focus on what he wanted, being stable and centred (rather than stopping dizziness).
He came back the following week and reported that the treatment had eliminated about 70% of the dizziness problem and after an hour’s more work he was fine, and stayed that way.

Once Again This Isn’t About Not Wanting The Problem – It’s Just About Aiming At The Solution

So here is yet another example of what works, getting the client to think about what he wanted, rather than trying not to think about what he didn’t want, not getting him to stop being dizzy, getting him to start being centred. I recommend the ‘hara’ technique to everyone. You can do it anytime, and the more you gently focus on your ‘centre’ the more centred you will become. It’s this simple. It is especially obvious when giving treatments for dizziness but it works to help a host of issues.

Change is not time based!

noreply@blogger.com (Nick Kemp) — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:30:00 +0000

Many clients who see me through JBW have already spent a considerable amount of time previously trying out all manner of approaches including councelling and psychotherapy. They often have the belief that "Change is going to take a long time..." I even had one client who had 1500 psychotherapy sessions! One of the many benefits of NLP as taught by Richard Bandler (this is IMO very different to NLP taught by others) is that this is an accelerated approach. I have found the best practitioners will have trained with a number of different people and take the best from these people to create a new set of skills that's not just a copy of what they have seen in trainings.

I rarely see clients for more than three sessions no matter how severe "the problem" Combining NLP with Ericksonian Hypnosis and Frank Farrelly's strategies produces an even more refined and accelerated set of successful outcomes for clients. Many clients are so impressed with results that often they themselves become interested in the approaches that they have found so beneficial!

The Power in NOW

noreply@blogger.com (Jonathan Jenkyn) — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:08:00 +0000

Since its conception, NLP has continued to stir up waves within every industry it has touched. From the contributions it has made to the field of therapy, to vast chunks of the personal development industry, NLP is now fast becoming the most rapid and potent model for behaviour in the world today. Dr Richard Bandlers unrelenting attitude towards learning and his deeply inquisitive nature has meant that NLP has continued to be developed since its conception, and has since applied its methodologies to industries and environments could not have possibly envisaged at its conception. NLP gives us a model for challenging restrictive beliefs and behaviours, while also providing us with tools to promote excellence wherever it is apparent.

If you have a behaviour or a belief about yourself that you think can't be changed... think again! You have the power right now to make the first step in your journey. All you have to do is make contact with one of the NLP Practitioners in your region, vetted and approved by the Just Be Well network for their expertise. If you really want to change for the better, then you are now simply moments away from the one decision that will change your life forever. Call or email one of us NOW!

Hypnotherapy And NLP In Australia

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 08:25:00 +0000

New Australian Hypnotherapy And NLP Website

Before Denis Niblett moved back from Sydney Australia to open our Newcastle clinic he was able to extend the network of practitioners through Australia, to include Mary Lee in Sydney, Adam Szmerling in Mebourne and Beverley de la Harpe Perth. Thanks Denis.

I have just lauched a site in Australia just for them - it is here Hypnotherapy And NLP In Australia

Choosing an NLP Practitioner

noreply@blogger.com (Nick Kemp) — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 08:40:00 +0000

A common question I get asked by clients is "How do you choose a hypnotherapist or NLP practitioner?" As I have already said one of the many things that first impressed me about Just Be Well, is that it contained a virtual who's who of experts from across the planet. Many of the representatives are not only fully qualified in NLP, but actually train others as well and have well respected products in the marketplace. They have also trained with Richard Bandler the co creator of NLP and so have had IMO the very best up to date training on the planet!
Before choosing an NLP practitioner, check who they trained with and how much training they have had. The best practitioners will usually have busy clinics and of course will see literally hundreds of clients each year. Often clients can be amazed at the speed of this approach. In recent times I had a client who had OCD for 24 years, who was fully cured in just two one hour sessions.

Crossing Bridges

denis@the18thcamel.com (Denis Niblett) — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:05:00 +0000

I share Nick's sentiments about the Just Be Well team which I joined whilst working in Sydney, Australia.

Having returned to the UK I now live and work in Newcastle upon Tyne and urge anyone wondering where to find help and assistance to consider hypnotherapy and NLP, and to look at the Just Be Well web site for more detailed information.

Perhaps I will see you in your dreams!

Hypnotherapy in Leeds

noreply@blogger.com (Nick Kemp) — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:50:00 +0000

I joined the Just Be Well network because it has the very best NLP and Hypnotherapy practitioners I have known, so I knew the standard would be very high. I work across Leeds and Manchester and highly recommend people to Just Be Well for assistance!

Regards

Nick Kemp
www.nickkemp.com

Hypnotherapy And NLP Blog Launch

noreply@blogger.com (Steve Tromans) — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 11:06:00 +0000

Hello and welcome to the JustBeWell.com hypnotherapy and NLP blog.

I am Steve Tromans and I started http://www.justbewell.com/ many years ago as my own personal website so that I could let people know who I am, what I do, and how I may be able to help them.

Since then the site has grown so that now there are a team of over twenty skilled professionals in the UK, Ireland, Canada, Australia and the USA.

The hypnotherapists and NLP trainers on JustBeWell.com have been personally selected by me as people I personally know and trust, or have come highly recommended to me by people I personally know and trust.

Common Values

We all share the idea that personal change can be rapid and easy and we have much more affinity with Neuro-Linguistic Programming than with traditional clinical hypnotherapy, although many of us will utilise more traditional hypnosis with clients if we think that this will be the quickest and most effective way to help them to make the changes they desire.

Hypnotherapy And NLP To Train The Mind

So it is much more like training than therapy. We aren’t interested in where the ‘problem’ comes from as generally it doesn’t matter how ‘problems’ start, what matters is how to ‘stop’ them, and how to help someone to be more resourceful in the here and now.

A Sense Of Perspective

If someone has depression, or anxiety, or virtually any problem, them they tend to be caught on a loop of wishing they didn’t have the depression, anxiety or fear, or habit, or compulsion etc etc. It can be like watching a TV program that you simply can’t stand, but you find yourself watching it again and again anyway...
Delving into the source of these problems often simply reinforces them.

Outcome Orientated Hypnotherapy And NLP

When you begin to think of how you will be when you have stopped ‘probleming’, you begin to open your mind to new possibilities.

The difference between someone who has a fear of public speaking and someone who does not have this fear, for example, is the anticipation of it. If you are scared of public speaking and someone says you have to do a presentation tomorrow then the first thing you will do is imagine being scared whilst giving the presentation. If you are confident at public speaking and someone says the same thing then you will automatically imagine doing a confident presentation.
Both people will tend to get what they ‘expect’ to get.

So we train the person’s imagination to expect to be confident, and then, almost invariably, they are.

Hypnotherapy And NLP – A Flexible Approach

At the strategic level the above holds true for so many issues, expect to blush and you will, expect to be jealous and you will be, expect to take cocaine tonight and you are more likely to etc etc

However there are a huge range of techniques available to help in other areas such as addictions, OCD, nail biting, phobias and so forth, so we will tailor what we do to your individual needs.

Related Websites Of Interest

Several of the JustBeWell.com practitioners have sites of their own. For example, in Ireland you can visit http://www.hypnotherapy-nlp-treatments.com/ and in Australia http://www.hypnotherapy-nlp-help.com/

Self Hypnosis Recordings Online Shop

For those of you who are unable to visit us in person then we have two online self hypnosis recordings shops, one attached to this site, here – www.justbewell.com/acatalog/ and one is the USA here http://www.selfhelprecordings.com/.

Please also feel free to visit the blog www.selfhelprecordings/blog/self-help-blog.html

Why Should I Read This Hypnotherapy And NLP Blog?

Well hopefully you will find items of interest and value to you. We are only human and we don’t always cure everyone of every problem but we do tend to get relentlessly good results.
Forthcoming items will include hypnotherapy and NLP for specific issues, hints and techniques that anyone can apply to themselves, and perhaps sometimes comment on relevant news items.
So thanks for reading this and keep on reading and please do feel free to comment.