Ok, I’m going to spend a couple of minutes talking about nail biting and how we can get people to stop nail biting.
It may not seem to those of you who don’t bite their nails a lot, that nail biting is a big issue. However, if you have seen people as I have, and anyone who has been in this business long enough has, turn up with fingers actually bleeding with hardly any trace of any nails, and in tears because they have been like this for years and they can’t stop themselves, seemingly, then you’d know that it can be a serious condition.
Yes, it can be nice to have nice nails, but it’s really nice not to have to chew the ends of your fingers. Now this isn’t therapy, this is training, this is working with your mind so that the patterns which you’ve learned unwittingly to fall into, or to do automatically, are redirected or re-patterned so the combinations we use, combinations built from the fields of Neuro-linguistics, are very direct. It doesn’t matter where or when you started biting your nails, it’s totally irrelevant. What matters is you did learn to do it and there you are caught in an endless loop, sometimes you know you are doing it sometimes you don’t know you’re doing it. It seems to happen all by itself.
Sometimes nail biting can provide what seems to be a perverse pleasure for the nail biter, whatever. Whichever version you are doing you can stop doing it and we can help you.
Typically, because this is a direct behaviour, it’s a very straight forward behaviour, albeit it can seem extremely ingrained, it takes one session. Most of the clients I see to get them stop biting their nails. however extreme, one session does it. Its direct, it’s to the point and I’m confident we can help you with this.
So do call us; either myself, or any of my colleagues throughout the UK or the world. We will be pleased to help you stop biting your nails for good.
The Squeeze Technique is often recommended as a treatment for premature ejaculation. This technique involves suitable stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping, and squeezing the penis until arousal diminishes. This procedure is then repeated.
This frustrating affair is aimed at getting the man to learn how to control his arousal and gain control over his ejaculatory response. It involves an awful lot of masturbation (with, or without, a partner) and takes some time to work, if indeed it works at all.
There is a superior technique that is derived from certain yoga practices that is similar and much more effective. Essentially the man masturbates until the point just before orgasm and then stops. There is no squeezing.
He waits only until the physical need to orgasm subsides by deliberately relaxing the muscles involved in ejaculation. He then starts again to the point just before orgasm. This is repeated as much as possible during each experimental session. Often, in the early stages of experimentation, orgasm will follow a few seconds later in the absence of any ongoing stimulation. This is just fine and is part of the training. You see, the trick here is the begin to learn to separate the orgasm from the muscle contractions of ejaculation. So, if orgasm does occur, it is important not offer any further stimulation, but instead relax the penis and muscles in the perineum (that's the bit between testicles and anus).
At first, during early experiments the typical experience men have is that ejaculation occurs quickly. This is just fine as the response does take a bit of time to develop. Remember, the most important aspect is to relax those crucial muscles during the orgasm.
What starts to develop is the phenomena of the "dry orgasm" and the "multiple orgasm." With sufficient practice, the orgasm can occur with minimal, or even not at all, ejaculation. Invariably, the man will also begin to experience multiple "mini-orgasms" before a full orgasm accompanied by full ejaculation occurs. Even with what appears to be full ejaculation, the sensitisation response in the penis glans that usually prevents further stimulation may not develop and further orgasm with lesser ejaculation is often possible. Without this sensitisation response, the man may feel that whilst he has orgasmed but is not yet "spent".
This, gentlemen, is the aim, and puts you fully in control.
Over Excitability In any given social group, the least emotionally responsive person who promotes the biggest emotional response from other people will be the most dominant person. Their position is, "I am not excitable. You are."
Meanwhile, the most emotionally responsive person who is least able to promote emotional responses in others will be the least dominant person in the group. Their position is, "I am emotionally excitable. You are not." (Unless they get the sympathy vote, of course). Often, but by no means always, the person with PE will be the over-excitable one of the group. Confidence
PE can rapidly affect a man's confidence, but also his level of confidence can rapidly affect his sexual performances. It is a vicious cycle and whilst the biological drive to have sex is ever present, the opportunity for sexual congress can fill him with dread, anxiety and fear.
A lot of confidence comes down to self identity and self-assurance. It is important to explore just how someone imagines themselves to be. Some men will imagine themselves as a sexual failure - and often they did so before they even had any form of sexual experience to prove otherwise. This will often stem from how they saw themselves when they were younger, their perceived place in the social hierarchy amongst their peers and families, and so on.
This place-in-the-social-hierarchy is an important area. In men with either premature ejaculation or psychogenic impotence (as opposed to impotence from a medical disorder) they often are having (or, not having) sex with someone that they view as being more socially dominant, or higher up the social hierarchy than themselves. When people feel intimidated by another person, they rarely perform well, regardless of the situation.
What Therapy Entails As with any symptom that usually manifests in the body I want you to see a doctor first before any hypnotherapy and NLP sessions.
Any embarrassment at seeking help passes quickly, enabling the work to move onward. What I often examine are issues of identity, emotional control, clearing out mental and emotional baggage and how to gain greater control over your thinking and emotions. Now, it is important to know that you won't neceaasrily be magically cured of your PE - it might well take a bit of time and practice on your own before things start to noticably change. The aim of the session is to get you pointed in the right direction to put you firmly in control.
Steve Tromans adds: Thanks Andy, just put this short video up on YouTube, to watch it there click here Stop Premature Ejaculation
This has become something of a specialist area for me, though I certainly didn’t plan this to happen. It’s just that the results tend to be so positive, so quickly, and I have had so many testimonials from satisfied ex-bulimics, that my work with eating disorders, and especially the NLP treatment for bulimia, has snowballed.
The Marie Claire Article
But it wasn’t until Marie Claire wrote a piece about NLP a few years ago that things really took off. I remember when I got the call.
‘Hi’, the woman said, ‘I am from Marie Claire and we are doing a piece on NLP, we have got someone to do spider phobia and someone to do stopping smoking and we would like you to write something about weight loss’.
We are often approached by the press to help with articles and many of us have been on the radio and some of us have been on TV. Whilst ‘weight loss’ is a hugely important issue (pun intended) I wanted to do something more ‘interesting’ after all, there are lots of methods that work to help someone to lose weight (believe it or not). And anyway, I had just that day had news that the two women for whom I had given treatment for bulimia the previous week had both stopped doing it.
A Piece On How To Cure Bulimia
‘What about a piece on bulimia’, I said, and the journalist thought it was a great idea, all she wanted me to do was provide her with an ex client who was willing to appear in Marie Claire, with a photograph, and tell the world about her recovery.
I put the phone down and thought ‘damn’, where am I going to find an ex client who is willing to do that.’ After all, most people who do, or have done bulimia usually don’t shout about it from the rooftops, and some have never told anyone about their problem (one kept her bulimia to herself for thirty five years...)
By a staggering coincidence (not that I believe in coincidences), a woman called Claire rang me about two hours later.
‘You probably don’t remember me,’ she said, I came to see you about a year ago and you cured my bulimia and I have a friend who wants your help with something else.
‘Claire’, I said, ‘how would you like to be in Marie Claire. She agreed immediately. Sometimes things just fall into place beautifully, don’t you think?
The Treatment Of Bulimia With NLP And Hypnotherapy
And then I thought, ‘how on earth am I going to put what I do into words?’
In the end I wrote a very long piece which is printed in full in the ‘Cure Bulimia’ section of this website, here - Treatment Of Bulimia Article - they only used part of it in the magazine.
Sometimes self hypnosis recordings can be very effective in the treatment of bulimia, have a look at the online shop on JustBeWell.com here Overcome Bulimia or on my USA based site here – Self Help For Bulimia
Please feel free to comment after reading the article and also have a read through the many pages of testimonials from clients for whom this form of treatment for bulimia has worked. Most people who suffer from bulimia find it hard to believe that they can often stop doing it quickly and easily. But they can.
Personal Approaches To The Treatment Of Bulimia
Some of the practitioners on JustBeWell.com will have their own tried and tested methods to cure bulimia so before you decide to make a booking, do have a chat with them about how they will work for you.
