Get The Life You Want

It has been a while since Richard Bandler had a book published so I was looking forward to getting my hands on 'Get The Life You Want'.

Now many books by Bandler are based on transcripts of seminars, think 'Using Your Brain' or 'Frogs Into Princes', both co-authored by John Grinder. Either that or they are the early 'Magic In Action' books, hard to read (in my opinion), and not much fun.

So What's This Book All About?

It's divided into sections, with the text written (or probably spoken, by the way it reads), and each section is aimed at dealing with a specific human 'issue', like, say, 'interview nerves'. Then typically there is a submodailty style exercise for you to do to integrate the 'trancey' words of the man himself.

The Exercises

Now some people will find the exercises easy, and some people will find them less easy, and they take a fair bit of practice in any event so my advice is this. If you find them easy then go ahead and do them, If you don't then find an NLP Practitioner who is comfortable enough with them and capable enough to be your guide.

Play

For goodness sake play with the exercises, treat them as a game, for as Bandler once said, 'what happens when people take things seriously is they end up taking things seriously'.

Or Just Read The Book And Ignore The Exercises

That's what I did. I just read it, and then read it again. I spoke to a couple of NLP trainers who said they thought that it was all a bit too basic but firstly this book is aimed at the general public, and secondly, the hypnotic language that RB uses throughout the text is far from basic. It may look straightforward, and is ever so easy to read, but it's far from 'basic'

Will It Sell?

'Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming' is not a nice snappy title like 'I Can Make You Rich', so it probably won't sell as many copies. Which is a shame, because although there's nothing wrong with Paul McKenna's books, 'Get The Life You Want' is so much better.

In my opinion

Is Magic In Practice Really Magic

The short answer is yes, at least I think it is. I am talking about ‘Magic In Practice’, the new book by NLP Trainer Garner Thomson and Dr Khalid Khan.

For years now I have been seeing clients, have been reasonably successful and have had often, at the end of treatment, had to deal with questions like, ‘Is there a really good book that explains what NLP is? I would love to know more about it?’

And I have answered with words like ‘umm.’

There are a number of good books on NLP

Because there are a number of excellent books out there that illustrate certain aspects of NLP and how it is applied. I particularly like the ones by Richard Bandler. However, the majority of these are transcripts from seminars and so whilst they are wonderful in their way (and I frequently do recommend books like ‘Frogs Into Princes’ and ‘Using Your Brain For A Change’), no one book really ‘did the trick’.

When The Client Is A Doctor And Wants To Know More...

It was particularly frustrating when those clients had been doctors, surgeons, psychiatrists or psychologists. The best way to learn NLP in my opinion, is to do every training that Richard Bandler does over the next couple of years, and repeatedly watch all of his DVD’s and read all of his books. And, if you have the time and the money, also go and get trained by Robert Dilts, Joseph Riggio, John Grinder and Nick Kemp.

Not that many people have the time to do that (or the money, for that matter), and I don’t think many, if any of the medical professionals I have seen as clients actually did so.

My life is a lot easier now as I can simply recommend that these people get the book ‘Magic in Practice’ and read through it a few times, and then, if they are from a medical background, go on one of Garner Thompson’s trainings.

As Richard Bandler says in the introduction, ‘All I can say is: it’s about time...’

He continues, ‘I have for years been very good at modelling successful healers, but have fallen short of providing the science....these gentlemen have gone so much further, I say thank you – and recommend that any Neuro-Linguistic Programmer read this over and over and over’.

The Rainbow Machine

Another excellent work on NLP to emerge recently is Andy Austin’s 'The Rainbow Machine' which is crammed full of information and insights gleaned from years of practice as an NLP Trainer and hypnotherapist, and also from Andy’s previous life as a psychiatric nurse.

It’s a fresh, thought provoking and interesting book that is in turns fascinating, moving and hilarious, and is like a breath of fresh air. It’s a book, when I read it, that I wished I had written. But I didn’t write it, Andy did, and if you are into NLP in any way, shape or form, then simply buy it. It’s brilliant.

Vancouver And Toronto Hypnosis Hypnotherapy And NLP

Hypnotherapy, NLP And Hypnosis In Canada

I am delighted to introduce my new website based in Canada - http://www.hypnosis-vancouver-toronto.com/. I say 'my' website but actually it has been designed specifically for some brilliant associates of mine who provide one to one NLP and hypnosis sessions for people in Toronto and Vancouver. Allow me to introduce them.

Harry Nichols - NLP Master Trainer - Vancouver

I have known Harry Nichols for more than ten years and am pleased to count him as one of my best friends. Harry was formerly an apprentice of Richard Bandler (the guy who invented and developed a great deal of the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (some would say almost all of the field but I don't want to get involved in any arguments over who did what - there is more to life...))

Anyway, Harry is the guy whose voice you will hear if you get the excellent, 'Adventures of Anyone' recording by Richard Bandler. Harry brings many skills to personal change work, and operates on many levels. He is brilliant.

Kathy Welter-Nichols - NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist, Healer, Hypnobirthing Expert And Much More - Vancouver

Harry's life partner, Kathy, is a woman of many talents and huge experience and has been working in these fields for more than 20 years. Literally thousands of people have come to her meditation and relaxation workgroups for people suffering from Cancer. Kathy trained with the originators of 'Therapeutic Touch', she is a former Vancouver 'Volunteer of the Year', and is an all round remarkable woman. You can get her recordings from this website here - Kathy Welter-Nichols Recordings

Elizabeth Payea-Butler - NLP Master Trainer - Vancouver

There are very few NLP Master Trainers on the planet who do much one-to-one client work, and we have two of them in Canada. Elizabeth has more than fifteen years experience in client work and is one of the key assistants to Richard Bandler when he conducts NLP trainings in the USA. I am delighted that Elizabeth is part of the JustBeWell.com international team and if you are in the Toronto region then I whole-heartedly recommend that you go and see her

Therapy Or Hypnotherapy Or Hypnosis Or Hypnotist Or What?

I don't want to turn this introduction to the new website into a rant but it does seem bizarre to me that there are a bunch of legal cases in Canada, especially in Toronto, about who is 'entitled' to use the word 'therapy' or 'therapist', or 'therapist' or 'hypnotherapist'. Apparently some psychotherapists think they own certain words and are taking legal action to protect them and to prevent anyone else claiming they do therapy or hypnotherapy. How anyone can think they own a word is beyond me.

What We Do Is More Like Training Anyway

If you consider that the definition of 'therapy' is making someone feel better (stopping them from being addicted, depressed, anxious or whatever), then we are all most definitely therapists. However, if you consider the definition of the word 'therapy' to mean going over the past and talking about how awful things are in the hopes that this will make you feel better, then we are most certainly not therapists.

I am not saying that all psychotherapy is rubbish. There are some wonderful people working in the field of psychotherapy, especailly those using more pragmatic approaches such as cognitive behavioural therapy.

NLP is concerned with where you are at and where you are aiming yourself, not where you have been.

Anyway, these are my opinions, not necessarily Harry's or Kathy's or Elizabeth's they are relaxed about it all and quite happy to do 'hypnosis', rather than 'hypnotherapy', and be 'hypnotists' rather than 'hypnotherapists'.

After all, they are only words, what is being done is what is important, not what you call it ...

BAH (Bingeing, Addictions and Habits)

Having read Steve’s interesting blog regarding a binge drinker, I was about to add my own comments when I found that several ideas and questions kept interrupting me.

I began to realise that I was becoming confused with regard to the term “binge”. It was by now late Friday afternoon and my work for the week was finished – or so I thought. That was when I turned on my PC and started to surf the web. Then the mental work really started.

I found that most authorities agree that binging is “… involuntary over consumption of food or drink”.

So I asked myself, “Is the over consumption due to an addiction to the food or drink?”

More surfing gave the general consensus that addiction is “… a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity”.

“That’s almost the same – just less specific”, I thought. “Perhaps they have got into the habit of doing something to excess”.

Yet more surfing provided the explanation that habits are “… automatic routines of behavior that are repeated regularly, without thinking”.

“Now, isn’t that just like binging, or am I confusing myself with so much high powered thought a the end of a busy week?”

I decided to look a little closer at this, despite the lateness of the day and the part of me that believed it was time to pack in.

Anyway, it is apparent that these three different behaviours have partially interchangeable definitions. After all, an involuntary recurring compulsion to repeatedly over consume alcohol would seem to be the problem which Steve described, whilst at the same time fitting into any or all of the above categories.

In practice, my clients agree with that sentiment. I know this because they randomly interchange the use of these three terms.

For example, I have worked with one person who claimed to be a “habitual liar”, whilst another claimed to be “addicted to telling untruths”. One young lady claimed to have control over her nail-biting until she became stressed, and then she “binged on them until they bled”. Some do not even bother with the ‘name’ of the condition, they prefer instead to use part of the description: “I am a compulsive eater!”

Even more interesting is the fact that an addict can easily be convinced that he actually has a habit; and whilst we all know that addictions are difficult to break, habits are easy to get rid of – at least that’s what they say.

In the same way, most chocoholics (who claim to have an addiction to chocolate) can be convinced that they are really binging on chocolate – it’s just a bad habit they have gotten into.

The circle can be completed by realising that it is not hard to convince a habitual nail biter that they are addicted to the taste of their nails!

The common denominator with all of these people is that they are doing something they want to stop doing – and the number of labels we can apply to that unwanted behaviour will not alter that simple fact. They want to stop doing something no matter what it is called.

Indeed, in many cases I find that the approach which worked for binging last week, works just as well with getting rid of an unwanted habit this week. Next week it possibly will not, and I will find another way to help that particular client. After all, each and every client is unique and deserves a therapy best suited to them.

Allow me to repeat this fundamental fact: it does not matter what label is used to name the unwanted behaviour. What matters is acknowledging that there is an unwanted behaviour, deciding to do something about it, and then doing something about it.

If you realise that you have ‘plogetted’ for too long, or want to stop ‘glunapacifying’, a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist will help you to achieve that aim, even though he or she will not have a clue what you are talking about. The important thing is that you know what you are talking about.

You will not even have to say it is a case of binging, an addiction, or a bad habit - unless you want to.

You already know where to find a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist because you have already read about Just Be Well, haven’t you?

So, if you feel that you want to say “BAH”, what the Dickens? You may as well complete the sentence and say “humbug” as well.

“Bah humbug!” It’s as simple as that.

And then give one of us a call. There is no need to wait until Christmas to make those changes in your life.

Stop Binge Drinking And Drink Moderately

Hypnotherapy and NLP To Stop Binge Drinking

Ah, the scourge of modern society (or one of them). These days the news seems to be full of items of rampaging drunken youths in towns and city centres. I occasionally get a rampaging youth as a client, but more usually they are professional people with steady jobs, and a very bad habit.

Now don't get me wrong. I did my fair share of binge drinking when I was younger. No rampaging though, at least as far as I can recall.

A Classic Case Of Binge Drinking

My favorite binge drinking client to date was a self made millionaire who had an extreme drinking habit. When he was a young man he was a successful trader and got into a cycle of binge drinking and would get blitzed every Friday night.Now this was not really a big deal, he never hurt anyone, it didn't harm his career, he exercised and was very fit, and all his friends were party animals.

As the years went by most of his friends moved on, settled down, had families, and indeed, so did he. He left his job in the City and set up what became a hugely successful company of his own.

He didn't stop binge drinking

Unlike his friends, this man had carried on drinking. Now, he didn't drink alcohol at all during the week, but on Friday nights he would go out and get absolutely hopelessly unconsciously drunk. Sometimes he didn't get home until Sunday. His friends would dump him in a hotel (one he had shares in), and that would be that.

His wife had reached breaking point

His wife had put up with a lot through the years and she had given him an ultimatum. She had told him that if he got drunk ever again then there marriage was over. She had said this before, but he knew that she really meant it this time. The following weekend was to be their big annual family barbecue and literally hundreds of people would be there as usual, so this was going to be one of the few Friday's in the year when he wasn't planning to go out. However, through the years every one of his big home parties had ended him with him passing out with excess alcohol and to have that happen again would spell doom for his marriage

He was half an hour late for a one hour appointment

He hadn’t really been late, he had been sitting outside in his Range Rover for half an hour finalising a deal.

‘Sorry about that,’ he said, ‘if I hadn’t made that call I wouldn’t have made £220 000.00 today.'

‘You won’t mind paying for the full hour, then’, I said.

So I was to have half an hour to sort out the most extreme pattern of binge drinking behaviour I had ever seen. Half an hour wasn’t enough for me to do all the various things I normally do, so I told him we were going to play a game.

‘We are going to talk about this coming Saturday night and how you want things to be,’ I said. ‘You are allowed, during this conversation, to tell me what you don’t want to think, feel or experience a total of three times. After that if you do it again I am going to shout at you.’

He didn’t look impressed. I don’t think anyone normally spoke to him in that tone, except his wife, probably.

‘What good will that do?’ He asked.

‘We can discuss it if you like,’ I said, ‘but if we do we will run out of time. You are here now, you may as well do this.’

He agreed, reluctantly. It wasn’t what he had been expected. He had thought I was going to knock him unconscious into trance and switch the binge drinking switch off in his head. (Believe it or not, even that can work with some people).

So I began.

‘What’s the most important thing about this coming Saturday night?' I asked.

‘That I don’t get drunk, he said. He didn’t even hear himself express the negation.

‘That’s One’, I said.

‘Shit!’ he said.

‘I only want you to tell me what you DO want to happen on Saturday night, that’s the only rule’.

‘I will be more careful,’ he said, through gritted teeth.

‘So what do you want to drink on Saturday?’ I asked.

He thought about it carefully, here was a man who was not used to losing, didn’t like to lose, and was going to do his utmost not to lose.

‘I still want to drink some alcoholic drinks’, he said slowly, and then he bit his lip to stop himself saying anything else. I could almost hear his internal dialogue adding ‘but not too many’. But he didn’t say it out loud.

‘How many alcoholic drinks?’ I asked.

‘About one an hour’, he replied.

‘And what do you think that one drink an hour may be, a pint of vodka?’

‘No’, he said, ‘a glass of beer, or a glass of wine perhaps’.

‘We are in the middle of a heat-wave’, I reminded him, ‘chances are the weather will be warm on Saturday evening and you will get thirsty. What are you going to drink to quench your thirst?’

‘Well I am certainly not...’ he began.

‘That’s Two,’ I interrupted.

‘I didn’t actually say it,’ he objected.

‘It’s my game’ I reminded him, ‘and I make the rules. So what are you going to drink on Saturday night?'

‘Soft drinks,’ he said, glaring at me.

‘Which soft drinks?’ I said.

‘Does it matter?’ He asked.

It mattered, I explained, because I wanted him to start to represent (imagine, think, visualise, plan etc) what he was going to do. He wasn’t going to have to stick rigidly to a drinking plan, but it was important that he thought about things a little more completely. He decided that diet coke and water would be OK. We chatted a bit more and then I reminded him that his friends would not be expecting him to drink moderately.

‘They will bring you drinks,’ I said, ‘They will say things like - Hey Bill (his name wasn’t Bill but I don’t think he would like his real name broadcasted), it’s your party!  What are you playing at?  Have a beer!’

‘Well I am not going to be silly enough to take any notice of them.’ He said.

‘That’s Three!’ I cried, ‘one more and I get to shout at you.’

I could see he was angry, I wasn’t sure how much he was angry with himself, and how much with me. I pressed on.

‘What time do you want to go to bed?’ I asked.

‘When the party is over,’ he replied bluntly.

‘And what time will that be, do you think?’ I said.

He looked blank. He had never been conscious at ‘party-over’ time, he had invariably collapsed with the drink some time before, generally after doing something dramatic like projectile vomiting into one of his swimming pools. He finally decided that it would be about 2am – 3am. We chatted through likely ‘danger’ times for him and he carefully answered with what he was going to do. Then I asked him another question.

‘How do you want to feel when you go to bed?’

He thought about it...

‘I want to feel like I have had a really had a good party, like I have had an excellent time, drunk alcohol sensibly and not got paralytic for once’.

So I shouted at him. ‘STOP!!!’

I really made him jump, and he wasn’t at all sure how to react. He was annoyed and slightly confused and disoriented, so I just carried on regardless.

‘And when you wake up in the morning, how do you want to feel’, I asked.

He sighed.

‘It would be wonderful,’ he said, 'just to wake up in the morning without a hangover for once.'

So I shouted at him again.

And this time he laughed.

He laughed at me but most of all he laughed at himself. There were tears running down his face. And his half hour was over.

He came back to see me the following week (half an hour late again).

‘What do you want?’ I said, as I always do.

‘I want to continue to be able to control my drinking easily,’ he smiled. ‘I can’t believe how easy it can be when you put your mind to it.’

And that was that. I spoke to him about a year later when he rang to see if I could help one of his friends with an unrelated issue and he told me that the binge drinking had stopped totally, except for one time when he had been on a stag weekend, and that was OK because he had planned to do it.

If you want to stop binge drinking then PLAN what you ARE going to do. Hypnotherapy and NLP are a very potent combination (and we don’t usually shout at out clients!). For more info on how we treat binge drinking issues go here Treatments To Stop Binge Drinking – or for an excellent set of recordings that deal with excessive drinking issues go here Stop Binge Drinking NLP And Hypnosis. It is possible, and often very easy, to retrain the mind out of the habit of binge drinking, I have done this with people on scores of occasions. It usually takes more than just relentlessly getting the client to think about what they are going to do (as opposed to what they are not going to do), but 'planning' is always a core issue.

Stop Binge Drinking is also available froma USA onine store

Bulimia Nervosa Treatments

Treatment Of Bulimia Nervosa - NLP and hypnotherapy

This has become something of a specialist area for me, though I certainly didn’t plan this to happen. It’s just that the results tend to be so positive, so quickly, and I have had so many testimonials from satisfied ex-bulimics, that my work with eating disorders, and especially the NLP treatment for bulimia, has snowballed.

The Marie Claire Article

But it wasn’t until Marie Claire wrote a piece about NLP a few years ago that things really took off. I remember when I got the call.

‘Hi’, the woman said, ‘I am from Marie Claire and we are doing a piece on NLP, we have got someone to do spider phobia and someone to do stopping smoking and we would like you to write something about weight loss’.

We are often approached by the press to help with articles and many of us have been on the radio and some of us have been on TV. Whilst ‘weight loss’ is a hugely important issue (pun intended) I wanted to do something more ‘interesting’ after all, there are lots of methods that work to help someone to lose weight (believe it or not). And anyway, I had just that day had news that the two women for whom I had given treatment for bulimia the previous week had both stopped doing it.

A Piece On How To Cure Bulimia

‘What about a piece on bulimia’, I said, and the journalist thought it was a great idea, all she wanted me to do was provide her with an ex client who was willing to appear in Marie Claire, with a photograph, and tell the world about her recovery.

I put the phone down and thought ‘damn’, where am I going to find an ex client who is willing to do that.’ After all, most people who do, or have done bulimia usually don’t shout about it from the rooftops, and some have never told anyone about their problem (one kept her bulimia to herself for thirty five years...)

By a staggering coincidence (not that I believe in coincidences), a woman called Claire rang me about two hours later.

‘You probably don’t remember me,’ she said, I came to see you about a year ago and you cured my bulimia and I have a friend who wants your help with something else.

‘Claire’, I said, ‘how would you like to be in Marie Claire. She agreed immediately. Sometimes things just fall into place beautifully, don’t you think?

The Treatment Of Bulimia With NLP And Hypnotherapy

And then I thought, ‘how on earth am I going to put what I do into words?’

In the end I wrote a very long piece which is printed in full in the ‘Cure Bulimia’ section of this website, here - Treatment Of Bulimia Article - they only used part of it in the magazine.

Sometimes self hypnosis recordings can be very effective in the treatment of bulimia, have a look at the online shop on JustBeWell.com here Overcome Bulimia or on my USA based site here – Self Help For Bulimia

Please feel free to comment after reading the article and also have a read through the many pages of testimonials from clients for whom this form of treatment for bulimia has worked. Most people who suffer from bulimia find it hard to believe that they can often stop doing it quickly and easily. But they can.

Personal Approaches To The Treatment Of Bulimia

Some of the practitioners on JustBeWell.com will have their own tried and tested methods to cure bulimia so before you decide to make a booking, do have a chat with them about how they will work for you.

Dizziness Treatments

Hypnotherapy And NLP For The Treatment Of Dizziness

We get to see a lot of people to help them to stop being dizzy, to give them our combination of hypnotherapy and NLP treatment for dizziness. We use a variety of approaches that work including training the mind and body to literally become more ‘centred’.

Now over the years we have seen a number of high ranking people from the medical professions. True, NLP is not yet widely accepted within the traditional medical industries but it is bound to be sooner or later for one simple reason.

It works.

Dizziness Treatments Case History: The Dizzy Surgeon

Anyway the first time I saw a surgeon it was to get him to stop being dizzy. Now dizziness is not a good problem for an orthopaedic surgeon to have, some of those operations last for hours. This man had had this problem for years, and it had steadily been getting worse as time had gone by. It had reached the point where he had begun to sway to and fro whilst in theatre, and he was desperate.

Which is why he eventually turned up at my door, I suppose. Mind you, he had spent the previous four years going up and down Harley Street seeing top ENT specialists and consultant neurologists, and he had a host of possible ideas as to why he was suffering from dizziness

Their 'treatments' hadn’t helped his dizziness at all

‘You are my last resort,’ he said, in a resigned tone.

‘Good’, I said, ‘that’s my favourite’. And I went on to explain that I always plan on being people’s last resort. That is, they won’t need to see anyone after me because they will be OK. At least, that’s the plan.

If you want to make dizziness worse, then keep thinking about it!

As he sat in the chair swaying back and forth I asked him if it was the kind of problem where the more he thought about it the worse it got. That’s a trick question really, it’s always like that. Focus on the problem and, lo and behold, it gets worse.

Sure enough his swaying did get worse, and I thought to myself, ‘surely it can’t be this easy’.

The Art Of Being Centred

I got him to focus on a point approximately two inches below his navel, and told him that when his mind started to drift, to bring his awareness back to this point.
Now those of you who are into Japanese based martial arts will recognise this point in the body as something called, in Japan, hara. It’s about where the physiological centre of balance is for the body. It’s where the power comes from when someone punches through a plank, it’s where you ‘move from’ when you get good at Judo or Aikido. And if you are into meditation you may know that the same point in the body is called the sacral chakra by some, and those into Chinese ways may be familiar with it under the name 'dan tien'

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I am not saying that these things are the same in these different systems, just related. Anyway, it doesn’t matter what you call it,- this area a couple of inches below the navel,- you could call it ‘Benjamin’ and it would still be there and still be very useful.

A million years ago I did a lot of martial arts myself and I always used to take beginners into the middle of the dojo (training area) and demonstrate this. That is, I would get them to stand with their feet shoulder width apart with one foot slightly in front of the other. Then I would tap them very gently on the top of the head with my finger tip whilst saying ‘think about this, think about this’. After a few seconds of this I would push them very gently on the shoulder.

And they would fall over, or nearly fall over.

Then I would get them to stand in the same way and get them to focus in a ‘tenaciously gentle’ way on 'hara', this point a couple of inches below the naval. If you have your hand resting on someone’s shoulder as they take their awareness into the centre of their body like this you can feel them getting more solid and grounded, much more. It is very tangible.

You can still push them over, especially if they are a beginner, but it takes much more effort.

So anyway I stood the surgeon up and did exactly what I had done all those years ago, I got him to focus on ‘hara’ and the swaying stopped, well virtually stopped.

Breathing Into The Earth

Then I got him to do a powerful breathing technique which involves breathing normally and imagining that the out-breath is powering down through the body, through the feet and deep into the centre of the earth.

And the swaying completely stopped, and he was very impressed.

Then I sat him down and did a range of NLP techniques to get him to focus on what he wanted, being stable and centred (rather than stopping dizziness).
He came back the following week and reported that the treatment had eliminated about 70% of the dizziness problem and after an hour’s more work he was fine, and stayed that way.

Once Again This Isn’t About Not Wanting The Problem – It’s Just About Aiming At The Solution

So here is yet another example of what works, getting the client to think about what he wanted, rather than trying not to think about what he didn’t want, not getting him to stop being dizzy, getting him to start being centred. I recommend the ‘hara’ technique to everyone. You can do it anytime, and the more you gently focus on your ‘centre’ the more centred you will become. It’s this simple. It is especially obvious when giving treatments for dizziness but it works to help a host of issues.

The Power in NOW

Since its conception, NLP has continued to stir up waves within every industry it has touched. From the contributions it has made to the field of therapy, to vast chunks of the personal development industry, NLP is now fast becoming the most rapid and potent model for behaviour in the world today. Dr Richard Bandlers unrelenting attitude towards learning and his deeply inquisitive nature has meant that NLP has continued to be developed since its conception, and has since applied its methodologies to industries and environments could not have possibly envisaged at its conception. NLP gives us a model for challenging restrictive beliefs and behaviours, while also providing us with tools to promote excellence wherever it is apparent.

If you have a behaviour or a belief about yourself that you think can't be changed... think again! You have the power right now to make the first step in your journey. All you have to do is make contact with one of the NLP Practitioners in your region, vetted and approved by the Just Be Well network for their expertise. If you really want to change for the better, then you are now simply moments away from the one decision that will change your life forever. Call or email one of us NOW!

Crossing Bridges

I share Nick's sentiments about the Just Be Well team which I joined whilst working in Sydney, Australia.

Having returned to the UK I now live and work in Newcastle upon Tyne and urge anyone wondering where to find help and assistance to consider hypnotherapy and NLP, and to look at the Just Be Well web site for more detailed information.

Perhaps I will see you in your dreams!

Hypnotherapy And NLP Blog Launch

Hello and welcome to the JustBeWell.com hypnotherapy and NLP blog.

I am Steve Tromans and I started http://www.justbewell.com/ many years ago as my own personal website so that I could let people know who I am, what I do, and how I may be able to help them.

Since then the site has grown so that now there are a team of over twenty skilled professionals in the UK, Ireland, Canada, Australia and the USA.

The hypnotherapists and NLP trainers on JustBeWell.com have been personally selected by me as people I personally know and trust, or have come highly recommended to me by people I personally know and trust.

Common Values

We all share the idea that personal change can be rapid and easy and we have much more affinity with Neuro-Linguistic Programming than with traditional clinical hypnotherapy, although many of us will utilise more traditional hypnosis with clients if we think that this will be the quickest and most effective way to help them to make the changes they desire.

Hypnotherapy And NLP To Train The Mind

So it is much more like training than therapy. We aren’t interested in where the ‘problem’ comes from as generally it doesn’t matter how ‘problems’ start, what matters is how to ‘stop’ them, and how to help someone to be more resourceful in the here and now.

A Sense Of Perspective

If someone has depression, or anxiety, or virtually any problem, them they tend to be caught on a loop of wishing they didn’t have the depression, anxiety or fear, or habit, or compulsion etc etc. It can be like watching a TV program that you simply can’t stand, but you find yourself watching it again and again anyway...
Delving into the source of these problems often simply reinforces them.

Outcome Orientated Hypnotherapy And NLP

When you begin to think of how you will be when you have stopped ‘probleming’, you begin to open your mind to new possibilities.

The difference between someone who has a fear of public speaking and someone who does not have this fear, for example, is the anticipation of it. If you are scared of public speaking and someone says you have to do a presentation tomorrow then the first thing you will do is imagine being scared whilst giving the presentation. If you are confident at public speaking and someone says the same thing then you will automatically imagine doing a confident presentation.
Both people will tend to get what they ‘expect’ to get.

So we train the person’s imagination to expect to be confident, and then, almost invariably, they are.

Hypnotherapy And NLP – A Flexible Approach

At the strategic level the above holds true for so many issues, expect to blush and you will, expect to be jealous and you will be, expect to take cocaine tonight and you are more likely to etc etc

However there are a huge range of techniques available to help in other areas such as addictions, OCD, nail biting, phobias and so forth, so we will tailor what we do to your individual needs.

Related Websites Of Interest

Several of the JustBeWell.com practitioners have sites of their own. For example, in Ireland you can visit http://www.hypnotherapy-nlp-treatments.com/ and in Australia http://www.hypnotherapy-nlp-help.com/

Self Hypnosis Recordings Online Shop

For those of you who are unable to visit us in person then we have two online self hypnosis recordings shops, one attached to this site, here – www.justbewell.com/acatalog/ and one is the USA here http://www.selfhelprecordings.com/.

Please also feel free to visit the blog www.selfhelprecordings/blog/self-help-blog.html

Why Should I Read This Hypnotherapy And NLP Blog?

Well hopefully you will find items of interest and value to you. We are only human and we don’t always cure everyone of every problem but we do tend to get relentlessly good results.
Forthcoming items will include hypnotherapy and NLP for specific issues, hints and techniques that anyone can apply to themselves, and perhaps sometimes comment on relevant news items.
So thanks for reading this and keep on reading and please do feel free to comment.