Ok, I’m going to spend a couple of minutes talking about nail biting and how we can get people to stop nail biting.
It may not seem to those of you who don’t bite their nails a lot, that nail biting is a big issue. However, if you have seen people as I have, and anyone who has been in this business long enough has, turn up with fingers actually bleeding with hardly any trace of any nails, and in tears because they have been like this for years and they can’t stop themselves, seemingly, then you’d know that it can be a serious condition.
Yes, it can be nice to have nice nails, but it’s really nice not to have to chew the ends of your fingers. Now this isn’t therapy, this is training, this is working with your mind so that the patterns which you’ve learned unwittingly to fall into, or to do automatically, are redirected or re-patterned so the combinations we use, combinations built from the fields of Neuro-linguistics, are very direct. It doesn’t matter where or when you started biting your nails, it’s totally irrelevant. What matters is you did learn to do it and there you are caught in an endless loop, sometimes you know you are doing it sometimes you don’t know you’re doing it. It seems to happen all by itself.
Sometimes nail biting can provide what seems to be a perverse pleasure for the nail biter, whatever. Whichever version you are doing you can stop doing it and we can help you.
Typically, because this is a direct behaviour, it’s a very straight forward behaviour, albeit it can seem extremely ingrained, it takes one session. Most of the clients I see to get them stop biting their nails. however extreme, one session does it. Its direct, it’s to the point and I’m confident we can help you with this.
So do call us; either myself, or any of my colleagues throughout the UK or the world. We will be pleased to help you stop biting your nails for good.
I’m going to spend a few minutes talking about how to stop taking Cocaine, how to stop using Cocaine.
I have seen people who turn up with their lives wrecked by taking Cocaine. That’s the way they have described it. They’ve lost their wife, their children, their job. They are up to taking a mound of cocaine every day and it doesn’t do anything for them except it makes them feel horrible; but not quite as horrible as they did before they took it.
Taking any drug, cocaine is no exception to this, is just a habit but it’s a horrible habit, a big habit. Taking cocaine socially for some people seems to be ok; it just keeps them awake it enables them to party longer. However it can very destructive, physically, mentally and emotionally. What I do with this is I use NLP which is training the mind and hypnosis combined to aim the person at the kind of person they want to be.
To begin with, people who come in are hooked, not only on the drug but the idea of the drug. They think about it and it gives them a good feeling, a positive feeling, ‘ahh cocaine, yes, let’s have some’. My job is to disconnect that in their mind, make that a thought of the past, make it distant, but my most important job is to aim them at how they are going to be, in other words if typically the person took several lines of cocaine every Saturday night out partying then I will get them thinking about how they are going to be instead of the problem, instead of the drug. I will get them thinking about it vividly. I will help them to create, in their imagination, a compelling vision of what life is going to be like without the drugs.
What are they going to be doing instead? How much fun are they going to be having? That kind of thing. Building things for them inside their mind because, yes, you can build aversions for things and disconnect things, but the most important aspect of my work is not where the person is coming from, its where they can be when they start aiming themselves at the solution. And the solution to ‘not taking cocaine’ isn’t ‘not taking cocaine’, it’s what their life is going to be like when they are not doing it any more, when they are doing something new. They could even be in the same place at the same party, socialising with the same people and happy and free and relaxed and alive and alert and having fun. That’s what my work is about, aiming at the solution, and the combinations, particularly of NLP which enables people to take control over their thinking in advance (that basically programs them to think how they want to rather than how they don’t) and hypnosis which simply helps them to re-pattern things at an unconscious level, is a very powerful combination. It’s a very powerful combination, so do contact us because we can almost certainly help you with this.
In yesterday's Guardian was a story about a poor girl who died of starvation after dental treatment went wrong and she developed a phobia. Now clearly there's a lot to be said about the role of the health service and social services here. I'll leave that for others.
What concerns me is this, from the article: "Although Sophie's case is exceptional, it raises questions about the way children with phobias are treated - and about the quality of community psychological care. Sophie developed her phobia at the age of four when a dentist scratched her tongue accidentally. From that time, her mother said that whenever she tried to take her for treatment she would run out of the surgery with her hand clamped over her mouth.”
Eventually Sophie had all her teeth removed during surgery, “because the hospital dentist knew she was frightened and removing them all would prevent problems in the future.”
All I know about this is the Guardian story and not the deep background. That said, if we're dealing with a child with dental phobia there's just no need for it to have reached this tragic conclusion. No need whatsoever.
In hypnotic NLP there's a technique known as the fast phobia cure. I've had great results with clients who have had real problems with phobias – heights, public speaking, all sorts – including recently a phobic reaction to other people being sick. It's quick, easy, and NLP practitioners and hypontherapists will all confirm how effective this technique is.
So why isn't it used as a matter of course in cases such as Sophie? I wish I knew. Sometimes people object to quick and easy cures because they don't get to the root of the problem, or because they may not last forever. Okay that's fine. The issue with not getting to the root may mean the cure needs to be applied again. Well, hell, it takes twenty minutes or less. If the technique had to be run through every time Sophie went to the dentist where's the problem with that?
There are other ways of getting successful dental treatment using hypnosis. In fact, some people opt not to have an anaesthetic and receive treatment while in trance.
Please, if you have any limits placed on your medical or dental treatment by your phobias or fears, seek out an NLP Practitioner, Hypnotist or Hypnotherapist. Let's have no more Sophies.
'Stop Blushing', Debbie Williams' multi-track recording, now also has a website of its own - http://www.stop-blushing.com
Because this is a website over several pages, it is able to go into more depth in terms of what it says about blushing, and also about other treatment options, including ETS surgery for blushing, and the side effects of ETS surgery
ETS Surgery For Blushing
The letters ETS stand for endoscopic transthoracic sympathectomy, a keyhole surgery technique that cuts the nerves that are partly responsible for the blushing response. ETS can also be used to treat excessive sweating. Sometimes the sympathetic nerve is snipped, in which case the process can be reversed (though this reversal cannot be guaranteed), sometimes it is severed completely. It can be a successful procedure though there is a risk of side effects.
Side Effects Of Surgery
By no means all people who have surgery for blushing experience side effects, although if you scan the Internet you will find plenty of people complaining about their experiences following ETS. Loss of sensation in other areas can be experienced, after all, nerves have been severed. The lung needs to be deflated during the operation which means there is a slight risk to either lungs or heart. The pain from the operation usually, but not in every single case, goes away
Usually the operation is successful, and the fact that people actually get to the point of wanting nerves severed to overcome blushing shows how desperate some people are to stop blushing
For Goodness Sake Get a Good Self Hypnosis Recording To Stop Blushing
After all, they often work when listened to repeatedly, and reputable organisations will always provide you with a money back guarantee. Or alternatively, go and see a really experienced practitioner of both hypnotherapy and NLP, there are plenty of them on this site.
Edit: Just put a video online about this, to see it durectly on YouTube go here Cure For Blushing
Laura Spicer talks about how to have more self confidence
We have now produced a series of videos introducing our work in video format. This one, by Laura Spicer, talks about self confidence, and what we do to help people to experience more self esteem and begin to feel better about themselves. So here it is:
Remember, as with all our work, this isn't therapy, it isn't going over the past to find out, in this case, why you had 'low self esteem', a 'poor self image' or low levels of confidence', it is a combination of education and training that has proven time and time again to be a rapid and effective way of solving all sorts of problems for people. We literally work with the way that you experience yourself, the way you have unwittingly learned to think, feel and experience, the way you see things, imagine things, remember things, talk to yourself about things and feel things. The work is based upon modelling people who think, feel and behave ion resourceful ways, and it is also based upon the careful examination of the work of great therapists.
Self Image, Self Esteem, Self Confidence and More
They are just words, really, and different people will describe their issues in different ways. The important thing is to deal with what is going on with a person, not what these things are called. That's why I like NLP, it gets to the heart of the matter in a pragmatic no-nonsense way and simply gets the job done. I have know Laura Spicer for more than ten years and can thoroughly recommend her as one of the most effective practitioners in her field.
The Squeeze Technique is often recommended as a treatment for premature ejaculation. This technique involves suitable stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping, and squeezing the penis until arousal diminishes. This procedure is then repeated.
This frustrating affair is aimed at getting the man to learn how to control his arousal and gain control over his ejaculatory response. It involves an awful lot of masturbation (with, or without, a partner) and takes some time to work, if indeed it works at all.
There is a superior technique that is derived from certain yoga practices that is similar and much more effective. Essentially the man masturbates until the point just before orgasm and then stops. There is no squeezing.
He waits only until the physical need to orgasm subsides by deliberately relaxing the muscles involved in ejaculation. He then starts again to the point just before orgasm. This is repeated as much as possible during each experimental session. Often, in the early stages of experimentation, orgasm will follow a few seconds later in the absence of any ongoing stimulation. This is just fine and is part of the training. You see, the trick here is the begin to learn to separate the orgasm from the muscle contractions of ejaculation. So, if orgasm does occur, it is important not offer any further stimulation, but instead relax the penis and muscles in the perineum (that's the bit between testicles and anus).
At first, during early experiments the typical experience men have is that ejaculation occurs quickly. This is just fine as the response does take a bit of time to develop. Remember, the most important aspect is to relax those crucial muscles during the orgasm.
What starts to develop is the phenomena of the "dry orgasm" and the "multiple orgasm." With sufficient practice, the orgasm can occur with minimal, or even not at all, ejaculation. Invariably, the man will also begin to experience multiple "mini-orgasms" before a full orgasm accompanied by full ejaculation occurs. Even with what appears to be full ejaculation, the sensitisation response in the penis glans that usually prevents further stimulation may not develop and further orgasm with lesser ejaculation is often possible. Without this sensitisation response, the man may feel that whilst he has orgasmed but is not yet "spent".
This, gentlemen, is the aim, and puts you fully in control.
Over Excitability In any given social group, the least emotionally responsive person who promotes the biggest emotional response from other people will be the most dominant person. Their position is, "I am not excitable. You are."
Meanwhile, the most emotionally responsive person who is least able to promote emotional responses in others will be the least dominant person in the group. Their position is, "I am emotionally excitable. You are not." (Unless they get the sympathy vote, of course). Often, but by no means always, the person with PE will be the over-excitable one of the group. Confidence
PE can rapidly affect a man's confidence, but also his level of confidence can rapidly affect his sexual performances. It is a vicious cycle and whilst the biological drive to have sex is ever present, the opportunity for sexual congress can fill him with dread, anxiety and fear.
A lot of confidence comes down to self identity and self-assurance. It is important to explore just how someone imagines themselves to be. Some men will imagine themselves as a sexual failure - and often they did so before they even had any form of sexual experience to prove otherwise. This will often stem from how they saw themselves when they were younger, their perceived place in the social hierarchy amongst their peers and families, and so on.
This place-in-the-social-hierarchy is an important area. In men with either premature ejaculation or psychogenic impotence (as opposed to impotence from a medical disorder) they often are having (or, not having) sex with someone that they view as being more socially dominant, or higher up the social hierarchy than themselves. When people feel intimidated by another person, they rarely perform well, regardless of the situation.
What Therapy Entails As with any symptom that usually manifests in the body I want you to see a doctor first before any hypnotherapy and NLP sessions.
Any embarrassment at seeking help passes quickly, enabling the work to move onward. What I often examine are issues of identity, emotional control, clearing out mental and emotional baggage and how to gain greater control over your thinking and emotions. Now, it is important to know that you won't neceaasrily be magically cured of your PE - it might well take a bit of time and practice on your own before things start to noticably change. The aim of the session is to get you pointed in the right direction to put you firmly in control.
Steve Tromans adds: Thanks Andy, just put this short video up on YouTube, to watch it there click here Stop Premature Ejaculation
"I started feeling bad about myself as far back as I can remember. I know there was a time where I was just a happy little kid, but I can't remember what that felt like.
I can remember the first time I did it, it grossed me out, and yet when I'd vomited up all the Christmas dinner I'd had that night I remember saying to myself...."they are all too drunk to notice" Recently a person at work (I don't work now, I couldn’t get out of bed anymore and lost my job) said to me she was thinking of trying it. I said to her in a voice I didn't recognize "You don't want to go there". I felt a shutter going down my body and I knew I was in so far I couldn’t see my way out.
My body was swelling, it seemed heavier than ever, I couldn’t sleep, I didn’t want to shower because I’d have to touch my body, and I hated how it felt. I was in a physical form that was foreign to me. I hated myself, my family, my life and I couldn’t get it to stop.
I'd never done any drugs, or addictive substances so when I realized this "caught" feeling was an addiction, it not only surprised me, it scared me!
I was foggy in my thinking. I only thought about where, when, how to get free of others so I could. All my thoughts directed me to the images of me running through stores and grabbing food and stuffing my mouth until I was soon after purging! I didn’t care about throwing up anymore, I never felt full, I always felt empty, even the smallest amount of food inside me felt wrong.
After a while I got more focused on my process. Greater planning. I had a lot of stories running in the back ground of the images I was looking at. Mostly food, everything was big images, pizza's so big you could use them for magic carpets! Muffins the size of space ships...then I saw all the foods there, moving towards me as if they were enticing me to grab them ....
Sometimes my parents faces came in over the foods...but seeing my dads sad eyes or moms anger just drove me to get back to what I was happier to view. My next binge
As soon as I opened my exhausted eyes in the morning, the inner commentary began...and never in the way that guy on "What the Bleep Do we Know" would say of "how he liked to create his day," what a joke. My inner voices were reminding me instantly of the dreaded day ahead. Oh there was a little weak one there in the back ground...suggesting in a rather high pitch "maybe things will be better today", but I squashed that one so fast with the images of last nights binge, the smell of vomit still in my hair, the taste and feel of the acid in my mouth...and all I wanted was last nights left overs to fill the aching sinking feeling inside me.
I knew I was in trouble, I couldn't even think of the last real conversation I'd had with anyone, heck I couldn't even remember clearly the details of yesterday! My parents were so frustrated with me and so afraid of what I was doing and doing to myself, they started hiding food, watching me, like I was a caged animal, and yet I had no where else to go.
Taking the pills seemed a logical way out so I did. Waking up in the hospital and monitored for a week was heaven, I couldn't do anything, and food was monitored for me. Slowly I felt better, but at the end of the week they discharged me and I knew that last day all I was thinking about was where to get the food to binge again. It was my only thought. They set me up with a psychiatrist. It was ok however, talking about it over and over again just made me want to keep doing it and I did, I was right back into it and everyone was so angry with me.
It's like talking to an alcoholic about all his binges - all I could think of coming out of each session was where I was going to get the food. It helped a little...but the 45 minutes a week really I was still sinking back into my darkening world, and I knew it. They gave me medications, that just made my head even fuzzier and I felt almost numb.
My dad found JBW on the web site and suggested I check it out. I called, and then called back and finally decided to take a chance on Kathy because I honestly didn't know what else to do.
And I know today, you probably don't realize you've given me back my life and me and I'm so grateful! Thank you, from everything I am."
It works, NLP is brilliant at unpacking addictive behaviors and restoring "normal" quickly without reviewing the endless past looking for the culprit. Mothers often feel it's their fault, fathers are desperate, as the family slowly comes unraveled...so when they see the resultant changes their daughters (and yes, some sons), go through...there can sometimes be a little residual - "hey what happened here? I thought this was really hard for you to stop?"
Don't be fooled, it was about the hardest thing your daughter will do and when she does it for herself it becomes the cornerstone of her strength and personal power as she regains her life again.
NLP can offer up the solution, the transformation and the life skills to maintain herself the rest of her life, and that’s all we do for her…teach her how to do it for herself.
My program is a full eight sessions with three months following of support via Email, Phone & SKYPE to ensure she breaks forever with the inner addictive patterns and knows just how to help herself if life gets too overwhelming.
Kathy Welter Nichols. Just Be Well-Team Canada
Steve Tromans writes: Thanks Kathy, I have just added this video to YouTube on how to cure bulimia - click here to watch on YouTube - Bulimia Cure
Over the last dozen years or so I have seen countess people to get them to stop panic attacks, and as I look back in my mind it’s a question of which stories to share with you.
Panic Attacks And The Businessman
The first that comes to mind was a very high-powered businessman who ran scores of companies (literally) and was in charge of operations whose combined annual turnover was well into the billions. This man had had some kind of virus which had brought on (so the doctors had later told him) shortness of breath, sweating and so forth. When this man experienced those symptoms in a meeting he worried about them (powerfully, he always thought powerfully), thereby making the symptoms worse (shortness of breath, tight chest, dizziness) and within minutes he had collapsed with what everyone thought of at the time as a heart attack.
Panic Attacks Can Sometimes Seem Like Heart Attacks
So an arsenal of super-qualified medics put him through batteries of tests and let him know, to his relief, that he hadn’t had a heart attack, he had had a panic attack.
The Fear Didn’t Go Away
Unfortunately, the knowledge that it wasn’t a heart attack didn’t help him. ‘What if I have another panic attack’ was the thought, and the idea of having a panic attack, the fear of having one, went round and round in his mind. He was OK, he discovered, if he was in familiar situations with people he knew. He was not OK, he found, when he had to go to meetings with people he didn’t know.
Which was, in the main, his job.
That and going out onto the trading floor as the ‘corporate figurehead’ were things he had rapidly learned to dread.
Control And Program The Imagination To Stop Panic Attacks
Panic attacks almost always involve an overblown imagination, or thinking in a very big way, and as I said, he was a powerful thinker, so when he applied his large imagination to the idea of panicking, he was able to produce a substantial amount of adrenalin and fear.
So it was just a question of giving him a sense of perspective, literally getting him to shrink down and distance the thoughts of panic until they didn’t trouble him. It took me two or three hours to do this. Which is not as quick as Richard Bandler sorted a young lady who lived in constant panic for a good reason – she had been on the bus that had been blown to bits on 7/7. For a short article on this by Richard have a look at this - www.happinessmagazine.co.uk - you have to sign up for the first issue but it doesn’t cost anything.
Debbie Williams, NLP Trainer and part of the JustBeWell.com network, has just released a combined NLP and hypnotherapy recording set – Stop Panic Attacks and you can get this on this website and also here Stop Panic Attacks, from the USA based online shop www.selfhelprecordings.com - the recordings carry a sixty day guarantee,
One of the most damaging of all personal habits is that of compulsive lying, and through the years I have seen a large number of people who have, to use their own words ‘ruined their lives’ through persistent and often outrageous lying.
Everyone Lies
Well, OK, probably not everyone. Many people, however, will have told a so-called ‘white lie’ once in a while. I myself have occasionally been guilty of telling someone on the phone that my wife is ‘in the bath’, or out shopping, to avoid her having to speak to someone that, at the moment, she didn’t want to speak to. I am not perfect. Who is?
Two Types Of Compulsive Lying
The first ‘type’ of compulsive lying is that kind where someone exaggerates their ‘achievements’. So someone might, for example, make up stories of all of the glamorous places they have visited, people they have met, illnesses they have had, cars they have owned etc etc etc. Usually, of course, this is done from a desire to be accepted, or to be liked or admired and usually, of course, the person gets found out eventually and end up being much less liked and much less admired.
Compulsive Lying To Prevent Bad Feelings
In a ‘clinical’ setting, the most common sort of compulsive lying we get to deal with is that of the person who makes up a lie, often ‘on the spot’, to stop the other person thinking badly of them. Then they have to tell bigger and bigger lies to cover up the first lie and it all spirals out of control.
Compulsive Lying Is A Habit
A bad habit it can be, I’ll grant you. It is still a habit though, and habits can be changed. Hypnotherapy and NLP are brimming with techniques to help people to change habits, to get them out of the automated old responses. In this case, the mind can be trained to ‘automatically’ feel comfortable telling the truth.
Hypnotherapy Can Help People To Stop Lying
If you are one of those people who has suffered from the habit of compulsive lying, because it does usually involve suffering, or if you are the partner of someone who has lied to you time after time, then you need to realise that it is possible for you to change, and the treatments is often very quick and very effective. For further information on how we treat this issue go here Stop Compulsive Lying
Self Hypnosis To Help You To Stop Compulsive Lying
For whatever reason, some of you may not be able to visit a hypnotherapist or NLP trainer for help with this problem. If this is you then you may well find assistance by listening to a good self hypnosis recording. Debbie Williams has just released a new suite of hypnosis and NLP recordings to help and they are available here Stop Lying Self Hypnosis and here Help Stop Lying. They come with a full sixty day guarantee. They are very good, but if you do buy them please make sure you listen repeatedly for best effect..
Having read Steve’s interesting blog regarding a binge drinker, I was about to add my own comments when I found that several ideas and questions kept interrupting me. I began to realise that I was becoming confused with regard to the term “binge”. It was by now late Friday afternoon and my work for the week was finished – or so I thought. That was when I turned on my PC and started to surf the web. Then the mental work really started.
I found that most authorities agree that binging is “… involuntary over consumption of food or drink”.
So I asked myself, “Is the over consumption due to an addiction to the food or drink?”
More surfing gave the general consensus that addiction is “… a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity”.
“That’s almost the same – just less specific”, I thought. “Perhaps they have got into the habit of doing something to excess”.
Yet more surfing provided the explanation that habits are “… automatic routines of behavior that are repeated regularly, without thinking”.
“Now, isn’t that just like binging, or am I confusing myself with so much high powered thought a the end of a busy week?”
I decided to look a little closer at this, despite the lateness of the day and the part of me that believed it was time to pack in.
Anyway, it is apparent that these three different behaviours have partially interchangeable definitions. After all, an involuntary recurring compulsion to repeatedly over consume alcohol would seem to be the problem which Steve described, whilst at the same time fitting into any or all of the above categories.
In practice, my clients agree with that sentiment. I know this because they randomly interchange the use of these three terms.
For example, I have worked with one person who claimed to be a “habitual liar”, whilst another claimed to be “addicted to telling untruths”. One young lady claimed to have control over her nail-biting until she became stressed, and then she “binged on them until they bled”. Some do not even bother with the ‘name’ of the condition, they prefer instead to use part of the description: “I am a compulsive eater!”
Even more interesting is the fact that an addict can easily be convinced that he actually has a habit; and whilst we all know that addictions are difficult to break, habits are easy to get rid of – at least that’s what they say.
In the same way, most chocoholics (who claim to have an addiction to chocolate) can be convinced that they are really binging on chocolate – it’s just a bad habit they have gotten into.
The circle can be completed by realising that it is not hard to convince a habitual nail biter that they are addicted to the taste of their nails!
The common denominator with all of these people is that they are doing something they want to stop doing – and the number of labels we can apply to that unwanted behaviour will not alter that simple fact. They want to stop doing something no matter what it is called.
Indeed, in many cases I find that the approach which worked for binging last week, works just as well with getting rid of an unwanted habit this week. Next week it possibly will not, and I will find another way to help that particular client. After all, each and every client is unique and deserves a therapy best suited to them.
Allow me to repeat this fundamental fact: it does not matter what label is used to name the unwanted behaviour. What matters is acknowledging that there is an unwanted behaviour, deciding to do something about it, and then doing something about it.
If you realise that you have ‘plogetted’ for too long, or want to stop ‘glunapacifying’, a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist will help you to achieve that aim, even though he or she will not have a clue what you are talking about. The important thing is that you know what you are talking about.
You will not even have to say it is a case of binging, an addiction, or a bad habit - unless you want to.
You already know where to find a good NLP practitioner and/or hypnotherapist because you have already read about Just Be Well, haven’t you?
So, if you feel that you want to say “BAH”, what the Dickens? You may as well complete the sentence and say “humbug” as well.
“Bah humbug!” It’s as simple as that.
And then give one of us a call. There is no need to wait until Christmas to make those changes in your life.
This has become something of a specialist area for me, though I certainly didn’t plan this to happen. It’s just that the results tend to be so positive, so quickly, and I have had so many testimonials from satisfied ex-bulimics, that my work with eating disorders, and especially the NLP treatment for bulimia, has snowballed.
The Marie Claire Article
But it wasn’t until Marie Claire wrote a piece about NLP a few years ago that things really took off. I remember when I got the call.
‘Hi’, the woman said, ‘I am from Marie Claire and we are doing a piece on NLP, we have got someone to do spider phobia and someone to do stopping smoking and we would like you to write something about weight loss’.
We are often approached by the press to help with articles and many of us have been on the radio and some of us have been on TV. Whilst ‘weight loss’ is a hugely important issue (pun intended) I wanted to do something more ‘interesting’ after all, there are lots of methods that work to help someone to lose weight (believe it or not). And anyway, I had just that day had news that the two women for whom I had given treatment for bulimia the previous week had both stopped doing it.
A Piece On How To Cure Bulimia
‘What about a piece on bulimia’, I said, and the journalist thought it was a great idea, all she wanted me to do was provide her with an ex client who was willing to appear in Marie Claire, with a photograph, and tell the world about her recovery.
I put the phone down and thought ‘damn’, where am I going to find an ex client who is willing to do that.’ After all, most people who do, or have done bulimia usually don’t shout about it from the rooftops, and some have never told anyone about their problem (one kept her bulimia to herself for thirty five years...)
By a staggering coincidence (not that I believe in coincidences), a woman called Claire rang me about two hours later.
‘You probably don’t remember me,’ she said, I came to see you about a year ago and you cured my bulimia and I have a friend who wants your help with something else.
‘Claire’, I said, ‘how would you like to be in Marie Claire. She agreed immediately. Sometimes things just fall into place beautifully, don’t you think?
The Treatment Of Bulimia With NLP And Hypnotherapy
And then I thought, ‘how on earth am I going to put what I do into words?’
In the end I wrote a very long piece which is printed in full in the ‘Cure Bulimia’ section of this website, here - Treatment Of Bulimia Article - they only used part of it in the magazine.
Sometimes self hypnosis recordings can be very effective in the treatment of bulimia, have a look at the online shop on JustBeWell.com here Overcome Bulimia or on my USA based site here – Self Help For Bulimia
Please feel free to comment after reading the article and also have a read through the many pages of testimonials from clients for whom this form of treatment for bulimia has worked. Most people who suffer from bulimia find it hard to believe that they can often stop doing it quickly and easily. But they can.
Personal Approaches To The Treatment Of Bulimia
Some of the practitioners on JustBeWell.com will have their own tried and tested methods to cure bulimia so before you decide to make a booking, do have a chat with them about how they will work for you.
We get to see a lot of people to help them to stop being dizzy, to give them our combination of hypnotherapy and NLP treatment for dizziness. We use a variety of approaches that work including training the mind and body to literally become more ‘centred’.
Now over the years we have seen a number of high ranking people from the medical professions. True, NLP is not yet widely accepted within the traditional medical industries but it is bound to be sooner or later for one simple reason.
It works.
Dizziness Treatments Case History: The Dizzy Surgeon
Anyway the first time I saw a surgeon it was to get him to stop being dizzy. Now dizziness is not a good problem for an orthopaedic surgeon to have, some of those operations last for hours. This man had had this problem for years, and it had steadily been getting worse as time had gone by. It had reached the point where he had begun to sway to and fro whilst in theatre, and he was desperate.
Which is why he eventually turned up at my door, I suppose. Mind you, he had spent the previous four years going up and down Harley Street seeing top ENT specialists and consultant neurologists, and he had a host of possible ideas as to why he was suffering from dizziness
Their 'treatments' hadn’t helped his dizziness at all
‘You are my last resort,’ he said, in a resigned tone.
‘Good’, I said, ‘that’s my favourite’. And I went on to explain that I always plan on being people’s last resort. That is, they won’t need to see anyone after me because they will be OK. At least, that’s the plan.
If you want to make dizziness worse, then keep thinking about it!
As he sat in the chair swaying back and forth I asked him if it was the kind of problem where the more he thought about it the worse it got. That’s a trick question really, it’s always like that. Focus on the problem and, lo and behold, it gets worse.
Sure enough his swaying did get worse, and I thought to myself, ‘surely it can’t be this easy’.
The Art Of Being Centred
I got him to focus on a point approximately two inches below his navel, and told him that when his mind started to drift, to bring his awareness back to this point. Now those of you who are into Japanese based martial arts will recognise this point in the body as something called, in Japan, hara. It’s about where the physiological centre of balance is for the body. It’s where the power comes from when someone punches through a plank, it’s where you ‘move from’ when you get good at Judo or Aikido. And if you are into meditation you may know that the same point in the body is called the sacral chakra by some, and those into Chinese ways may be familiar with it under the name 'dan tien'
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I am not saying that these things are the same in these different systems, just related. Anyway, it doesn’t matter what you call it,- this area a couple of inches below the navel,- you could call it ‘Benjamin’ and it would still be there and still be very useful.
A million years ago I did a lot of martial arts myself and I always used to take beginners into the middle of the dojo (training area) and demonstrate this. That is, I would get them to stand with their feet shoulder width apart with one foot slightly in front of the other. Then I would tap them very gently on the top of the head with my finger tip whilst saying ‘think about this, think about this’. After a few seconds of this I would push them very gently on the shoulder.
And they would fall over, or nearly fall over.
Then I would get them to stand in the same way and get them to focus in a ‘tenaciously gentle’ way on 'hara', this point a couple of inches below the naval. If you have your hand resting on someone’s shoulder as they take their awareness into the centre of their body like this you can feel them getting more solid and grounded, much more. It is very tangible.
You can still push them over, especially if they are a beginner, but it takes much more effort.
So anyway I stood the surgeon up and did exactly what I had done all those years ago, I got him to focus on ‘hara’ and the swaying stopped, well virtually stopped.
Breathing Into The Earth
Then I got him to do a powerful breathing technique which involves breathing normally and imagining that the out-breath is powering down through the body, through the feet and deep into the centre of the earth.
And the swaying completely stopped, and he was very impressed.
Then I sat him down and did a range of NLP techniques to get him to focus on what he wanted, being stable and centred (rather than stopping dizziness). He came back the following week and reported that the treatment had eliminated about 70% of the dizziness problem and after an hour’s more work he was fine, and stayed that way.
Once Again This Isn’t About Not Wanting The Problem – It’s Just About Aiming At The Solution
So here is yet another example of what works, getting the client to think about what he wanted, rather than trying not to think about what he didn’t want, not getting him to stop being dizzy, getting him to start being centred. I recommend the ‘hara’ technique to everyone. You can do it anytime, and the more you gently focus on your ‘centre’ the more centred you will become. It’s this simple. It is especially obvious when giving treatments for dizziness but it works to help a host of issues.
I share Nick's sentiments about the Just Be Well team which I joined whilst working in Sydney, Australia.
Having returned to the UK I now live and work in Newcastle upon Tyne and urge anyone wondering where to find help and assistance to consider hypnotherapy and NLP, and to look at the Just Be Well web site for more detailed information.
Hello and welcome to the JustBeWell.com hypnotherapy and NLP blog.
I am Steve Tromans and I started http://www.justbewell.com/ many years ago as my own personal website so that I could let people know who I am, what I do, and how I may be able to help them.
Since then the site has grown so that now there are a team of over twenty skilled professionals in the UK, Ireland, Canada, Australia and the USA.
The hypnotherapists and NLP trainers on JustBeWell.com have been personally selected by me as people I personally know and trust, or have come highly recommended to me by people I personally know and trust.
Common Values
We all share the idea that personal change can be rapid and easy and we have much more affinity with Neuro-Linguistic Programming than with traditional clinical hypnotherapy, although many of us will utilise more traditional hypnosis with clients if we think that this will be the quickest and most effective way to help them to make the changes they desire.
Hypnotherapy And NLP To Train The Mind
So it is much more like training than therapy. We aren’t interested in where the ‘problem’ comes from as generally it doesn’t matter how ‘problems’ start, what matters is how to ‘stop’ them, and how to help someone to be more resourceful in the here and now.
A Sense Of Perspective
If someone has depression, or anxiety, or virtually any problem, them they tend to be caught on a loop of wishing they didn’t have the depression, anxiety or fear, or habit, or compulsion etc etc. It can be like watching a TV program that you simply can’t stand, but you find yourself watching it again and again anyway... Delving into the source of these problems often simply reinforces them.
Outcome Orientated Hypnotherapy And NLP
When you begin to think of how you will be when you have stopped ‘probleming’, you begin to open your mind to new possibilities.
The difference between someone who has a fear of public speaking and someone who does not have this fear, for example, is the anticipation of it. If you are scared of public speaking and someone says you have to do a presentation tomorrow then the first thing you will do is imagine being scared whilst giving the presentation. If you are confident at public speaking and someone says the same thing then you will automatically imagine doing a confident presentation. Both people will tend to get what they ‘expect’ to get.
So we train the person’s imagination to expect to be confident, and then, almost invariably, they are.
Hypnotherapy And NLP – A Flexible Approach
At the strategic level the above holds true for so many issues, expect to blush and you will, expect to be jealous and you will be, expect to take cocaine tonight and you are more likely to etc etc
However there are a huge range of techniques available to help in other areas such as addictions, OCD, nail biting, phobias and so forth, so we will tailor what we do to your individual needs.
Well hopefully you will find items of interest and value to you. We are only human and we don’t always cure everyone of every problem but we do tend to get relentlessly good results. Forthcoming items will include hypnotherapy and NLP for specific issues, hints and techniques that anyone can apply to themselves, and perhaps sometimes comment on relevant news items. So thanks for reading this and keep on reading and please do feel free to comment.
