Slight of Mouth, Barack Obama's speech

Look at the use of language patterns and persuasion in this piece it's

quite awesome!! You also need a very skilled person to deliver it

perfectly!

This is an excerpt from a speech by Senator Barack Obama - New Hampshire

Primary Tuesday, January 8th, 2008 Nashua, New Hampshire

Comments on the persuasive power of this are in (italics).

We've been asked to pause for a reality check. (This is an indirect

suggestion to "pause" i.e., to stop thinking or rationalizing) We've

been warned against offering the people of this nation false hope.

(:"We" implies a "you and me" thus uniting us. From our detached "pause"

we can look at the concept of false hope.)

But in the unlikely story that is America, ("unlikely" allows us to feel

unique and special as Americans, linking us to the myth of a people who

thrive against all odds) there has never been anything false about hope.

(This is a different use of the words "false" and "hope" and reframes

"false hope" in a new way) For when we have faced down impossible odds

(these impossible odds are unmentioned but assumed and affirms that we

are unique) ; when we've been told that we're not ready, or that we

shouldn't try, or that we can't, generations of Americans have responded

with a simple creed that sums up the spirit of a people.

Yes we can.

(A call to action but even more; a call to rebellion against those who

try to discourage us.)

It was a creed written into the founding documents that declared the

destiny of a nation.

(Evocation of "destiny"; that we are the central figures around whom

great things can occur.)

Yes we can.

It was whispered by slaves and abolitionists as they blazed a trail

toward freedom through the darkest of nights.

(Offering anecdotal evidence to support our rebellion against any

oppressor.)

Yes we can.

(Repetition. Hammer it into the mind and link it with powerful and

positive emotions.)

It was sung by immigrants as they struck out from distant shores and

pioneers who pushed westward against an unforgiving wilderness. (More

strong images of perseverance against security and reason.)

Yes we can.

It was the call of workers who organized; women who reached for the

ballot; a President who chose the moon as our new frontier; and a King

who took us to the mountaintop and pointed the way to the Promised Land.

(Wow! This one is POWERFUL! Without stating who the "King" is it

providing clues of "mountaintop" and "the Promised Land" and he allows

us to connect the dots on our own. This makes us to feel as if we have

knowledge of an inner secret.)

Yes we can to justice and equality. Yes we can to opportunity and

prosperity. Yes we can heal this nation. Yes we can repair this world.

Yes we can. (Powerful use of repetition.)

And so tomorrow, as we take this campaign South and West; (in itself

this brings people back to earth... to the reality of the campaign. This

would be bad if it were not for the preceding emotional high we've been

brought to) as we learn that the struggles of the textile worker in

Spartanburg are not so different than the plight of the dishwasher in

Las Vegas; that the hopes of the little girl who goes to a crumbling

school in Dillon are the same as the dreams of the boy who learns on the

streets of LA; (This creates the feeling of bonding between different

people. A feeling that we are not so different from one another.) we

will remember that there is something happening in America; that we are

not as divided as our politics suggests; that we are one people; we are

one nation; and together, (Providing three ways of saying "we are one

people" and thus clobbering us with repetition again) we will begin the

next great chapter in America's story with three words that will ring

from coast to coast; from sea to shining sea ("coast to coast; from sea

to shining sea" evokes patriotic memories of the song "God Bless

America" ... all without saying it explicitly!) – Yes. We. Can.

(Yes, we can! There is little more persuasive than a simple phrase

repeated and instilled with emotion. It is the same effect that

Martin Luther King with "I have a dream.")

Bulimia - A special focus

Bulimia, A Clients Story

"I started feeling bad about myself as far back as I can remember. I know there was a time where I was just a happy little kid, but I can't remember what that felt like.

I can remember the first time I did it, it grossed me out, and yet when I'd vomited up all the Christmas dinner I'd had that night I remember saying to myself...."they are all too drunk to notice" Recently a person at work (I don't work now, I couldn’t get out of bed anymore and lost my job) said to me she was thinking of trying it. I said to her in a voice I didn't recognize "You don't want to go there". I felt a shutter going down my body and I knew I was in so far I couldn’t see my way out.

My body was swelling, it seemed heavier than ever, I couldn’t sleep, I didn’t want to shower because I’d have to touch my body, and I hated how it felt. I was in a physical form that was foreign to me. I hated myself, my family, my life and I couldn’t get it to stop.

I'd never done any drugs, or addictive substances so when I realized this "caught" feeling was an addiction, it not only surprised me, it scared me!

I was foggy in my thinking. I only thought about where, when, how to get free of others so I could. All my thoughts directed me to the images of me running through stores and grabbing food and stuffing my mouth until I was soon after purging! I didn’t care about throwing up anymore, I never felt full, I always felt empty, even the smallest amount of food inside me felt wrong.

After a while I got more focused on my process. Greater planning. I had a lot of stories running in the back ground of the images I was looking at. Mostly food, everything was big images, pizza's so big you could use them for magic carpets! Muffins the size of space ships...then I saw all the foods there, moving towards me as if they were enticing me to grab them ....

Sometimes my parents faces came in over the foods...but seeing my dads sad eyes or moms anger just drove me to get back to what I was happier to view. My next binge

As soon as I opened my exhausted eyes in the morning, the inner commentary began...and never in the way that guy on "What the Bleep Do we Know" would say of "how he liked to create his day," what a joke. My inner voices were reminding me instantly of the dreaded day ahead. Oh there was a little weak one there in the back ground...suggesting in a rather high pitch "maybe things will be better today", but I squashed that one so fast with the images of last nights binge, the smell of vomit still in my hair, the taste and feel of the acid in my mouth...and all I wanted was last nights left overs to fill the aching sinking feeling inside me.

I knew I was in trouble, I couldn't even think of the last real conversation I'd had with anyone, heck I couldn't even remember clearly the details of yesterday! My parents were so frustrated with me and so afraid of what I was doing and doing to myself, they started hiding food, watching me, like I was a caged animal, and yet I had no where else to go.

Taking the pills seemed a logical way out so I did. Waking up in the hospital and monitored for a week was heaven, I couldn't do anything, and food was monitored for me. Slowly I felt better, but at the end of the week they discharged me and I knew that last day all I was thinking about was where to get the food to binge again. It was my only thought. They set me up with a psychiatrist. It was ok however, talking about it over and over again just made me want to keep doing it and I did, I was right back into it and everyone was so angry with me.

It's like talking to an alcoholic about all his binges - all I could think of coming out of each session was where I was going to get the food. It helped a little...but the 45 minutes a week really I was still sinking back into my darkening world, and I knew it. They gave me medications, that just made my head even fuzzier and I felt almost numb.

My dad found JBW on the web site and suggested I check it out. I called, and then called back and finally decided to take a chance on Kathy because I honestly didn't know what else to do.

And I know today, you probably don't realize you've given me back my life and me and I'm so grateful! Thank you, from everything I am."



It works, NLP is brilliant at unpacking addictive behaviors and restoring "normal" quickly without reviewing the endless past looking for the culprit. Mothers often feel it's their fault, fathers are desperate, as the family slowly comes unraveled...so when they see the resultant changes their daughters (and yes, some sons), go through...there can sometimes be a little residual - "hey what happened here? I thought this was really hard for you to stop?"

Don't be fooled, it was about the hardest thing your daughter will do and when she does it for herself it becomes the cornerstone of her strength and personal power as she regains her life again.

NLP can offer up the solution, the transformation and the life skills to maintain herself the rest of her life, and that’s all we do for her…teach her how to do it for herself.

My program is a full eight sessions with three months following of support via Email, Phone & SKYPE to ensure she breaks forever with the inner addictive patterns and knows just how to help herself if life gets too overwhelming.

Kathy Welter Nichols.
Just Be Well-Team Canada

NLP Strategies for shifting corporate stress

SOME TIPS FOR MANAGING STRESS DURING TIMES OF CHANGE:

NLP & Hypnosis can assist you with strategies for stress during times of great change. NLP is like the primary operating system a computer uses, only that computer is our brain. When we overtax it with stressors and we don’t provide for alternatives to help it maintain optimum processing functionality, we begin to use up brain cells. It’s like never turning the computer system off, things never “clear” completely. There are super easy ways to do this, and NLP offers strategies to help you create more of what you want while reducing the stress that you don't want.

So here’s the thing, what are the chances that this situation has been presented to you right now, so you could learn some new strategies about how you work and how you might learn to do things a little differently that might give you some different results?

Think about guys like The Donald…how does he manage 20 corporations and not lose all his hair? He’s got a winning strategy. How does any corporation grow beyond it’s owners and become something more than they ever envisioned? Strategy.

I learned about myself an amazing strategy, and it works for me in some things, but in other things it’s not been very helpful at all, so I changed the strategy for some things, while retaining the old one for the things it worked great with. At first it seemed a little mind bending as my mind wanted to use the old practiced strategy for everything, but then I saw the benefits and I started working more and more with the new strategy and wow, now I can see even the old strategy would work better and more consistently using the new one!

And it's just behaviors, just learned process's and what if there is a better way and what if you can know what that is and utilize it in your life quickly and effortlessly?

Life is easier than we think and often we think we have to work hard, play hard to get ahead…but as you look around there seems to be more and more guys like The Donald around; having fun, enjoying life and running a lot of business through his companies without an obvious amount of stress….why not do what they are doing?

Didn’t you learn systems at university? So what stops you from learning new things now?

Tips For Personal Stress Release:

Use one of our MP3's or CD's to go to sleep at night. You will sleep deeper and your brain will allow itself to reset during each night, instead of sleeping lightly and tossing and turning!

You should notice a difference within a few days.

Benefits: Sharper mind, clearer thinking, easier to process, less distractions, easier to focus, less errors, sharper timing….

Less stress response to daily small things and noticing rather quickly that even the big issues don’t really bother you as much

While doing two jobs at once, you will need to plan additional care for self:

**Key: What are you doing for yourself, every week? At least one time a week something just for you that you really love…

When was the last time you just spent a day in bed, reading, eating, sleeping a “down day” where you weren’t SICK at home?

When doing multiple jobs you will need extra rest, and sleeping is key, as it restores cells in the body – especially the brain - the MP3 will give you deeper sleep and this is really helpful however, you also need to do some things for yourself that help you feel like your life is not all WORK.

FUN – plan some fun that you like, not getting together with friends, but stuff you want to do, that takes NO WORK on your part - but just is fun for you. If you can’t think of anything, remember a time when you felt great, felt happy, felt lighter and full of happiness – what were you doing? Then do that. If it was on a holiday somewhere – then what were you doing when you felt great, replicate that at home. You don’t need location, you need the activity that makes you happy.

EXERCISE: when you are really busy this seems to be the first thing out the door, or left at the door. I’ll exercise when I have more time. And yet studies show in a critical time this can assist in many areas of bodily function to improve performance and mental power. It aids in breathing, and relaxation and allows for the release of endorphins (the feel good chemicals of the brain)

Take a look at Obama, he’s 24/7 on the trail right now and he’s exercising every moment he gets shooting hoops. Cardio is good for the brain as well as the heart. Don’t make it big exercise, or difficult to do, just like Obama, he’s exercising in between the speeches and the meetings, so maybe 20 minutes three times a day. – Walk the dog, jog around the block in the morning before you shower for work, walk around the block at work during lunch…. On a daily basis this will add up and you’ll start to have more energy, less difficulty breathing and less of a “weight sitting on your chest”. Watch guys like this they are amazing at managing their own strategies….and we can learn from them.

You can use the MP3 at work. Just close the door to your office and listen to it once or twice while at work Simple like that! This will improve your performance at work tremendously, and it feels great! You’ll be clearer in meetings and more focused when working.

Don’t Multi Task A new and very relevant KEY to brain function!

We used to be proud of our ability to multi task, however, they have discovered now, the short function/focus of multi tasking causes long term focus problems and issues with completing tasks and projects. That feeling of “what was I doing?” is a result of having too many balls in the air at one time. Start something, finish it. Then start something else and finish it through. Avoid trying to do several things at once. It burns brain cells and the other way creates them, and strengthens synaptic connections… who knew?

KEY to good business and market planning is to diversify. Same for a person running a company(ies)

Diversify = delegate. As you delegate you add time to your life, and add life to your time! Set up delegations that work, so people are accountable to you and you are not chasing them. This is good training for raising kids too, just as an aside - Teach accountability, I think it’s going to be a new buzz word in business right away! As you teach accountability monitor your own too!

These are starters and I know as you read them you’ll be saying to yourself “darn I knew this, of course, this is right, oh sure I know this one too”Just get started one day at a time, and realize that you can do it all, just not all in the same moment!

Add Leverage: Your wife and family need you, your unborn children and yet to be imagined grand children need you. And I know that’s all too far in the distance so think of it this way:

Your company and the people that work there have placed a lot of faith in you, they also believe that faith in you will mean that when you are asked to do difficult tasks and attend to the details of their bottom line as the company grows, expands and develops you will have the good sense and strong character to know during these times you have to invest in your own physical & mental health and take care of it so you can continue to be there for them and not keel over. Hiring top people also means you know they will be able to manage stress in their lives as well as use their solid brain & training to figure out the moves that will keep the company in solid growth.

If nothing else, know that your employers have that kind of faith in you, and get after off loading the stressors you so you can give them the qualities they hired in you.

And these tips just might save your life too!

Kathy & Harry Nichols, provide one on one sessions for men & women in business today facing the challenges and developing new strategies that are both helpful and resourceful. They are part of the successful team of professionals at Just Be Well Global!

"Magic in Practice" is pure Magic in Birth!

I help women have babies, using NLP and Hypnosis.... And the results are incredible whether birthing at home, in hospitals, water birth or in taxi's... birth is possible without the drama and lamenting we've seen over the past decades!

Magic in Practice, the book by Garner Thomson and Dr. Khan is a gift! I was astounded that birthing "professionals" had no idea about rapport building, or suggestibility in a birthing mother. They had no knowledge of Fractionation and that the labouring mother has indeed established herself in a very deep self induced hypnotic trance through the labouring process. That bright lights, constant interruptions of the mother interrupt this delicate chemical balance in her.

From Dave Elman's text on Hypnosis, his incredible chapter on preparing for Labour & Birth is really all any mother needs to her from her care provider and she'll have a great birth! In fact, Elman quotes his stats from the 1960's as being 90% of cases using hypnosis and trance were experiencing little to no discomfort during birth!

I go a little further, my line up is:

Healthy Baby, Mom labouring for an average of 7 hours, baby and mom bonding during the entire labour and birth, easily attaching and breast feeding, and the finale: In tack Perineum!

Using NLP and Hypnosis I uncover these deep structures and assist a woman out of alignment and out of rapport with TV, MEDIA & negative priming of the medical model, so mothers come to believe in their body, themselves and their baby and have established clear pattern interruptions for those that would dissuade them otherwise. I detail visually and kinesthetically the experiences they will have and add to it, auditory affirmations that guide the woman every step of the way, with a volume selection she has control of.

Accessing their own deeper structure I draw on personal strengths, illicit the areas of fear that are truly irrelevant to their individual births, because they have not happened to them yet! I teach them how to move out of rapport with anything that does not fit their inner image of that calm and peaceful birth. As care providers we call all learn this process, because it’s just positive priming! We’re doing it anyway and understanding the resultant effect of negative priming versus positive priming is what my program is all about.

Based on the work of Richard Bandler & John Grinder who asked a simple question that pointed us all in a different direction:

Instead of "what's going terribly wrong here" they asked "how can we achieve excellence?"

That's what I did within the Birthing Model. I stopped asking what was going terribly wrong and started looking for Magic in Birth!

Very soon thereafter it showed up! Magical Birth! Can you believe it? In 2008 and we have the skills, the inner neurology and the DNA within women to achieve magical birth!

I asked my mothers to stop looking at the "fear packets" out there. I taught them how to move themselves out of rapport with anything that would offer this kind of negative priming during the pregnancy or birth. I asked them to practice relaxation and breathing, and taught both parents about Mirror Neurons and then we had fun with connecting to baby prior to the birth to ensure perfect positioning during labour and birth. ..every time!

I started them thinking and looking at what it might be like if they breathed through the birth, visioning their infant gently making its way into the world. If they held a constant inner dialog of "this is working perfectly" and smiling through each long deep breath focusing on becoming a .....

MOTHER!!!! ????

Wait a minute, maybe that's what's really causing the stress loads here! And sure enough it was, when birthing the woman cannot see herself as the mother of the infant that is about to enter her world!

The Maiden enters her metaphorical birthing pool never to be the same again! Her psyche recognizes the time as initiation, and her dreams show her a landscape of imagery that can be both vivid and real. She is about to change ...forever, as is her own mother and her own grandmother and the line shifts as far back as we can see.

Joseph Campbell (The power of Myth) suggested "Wherever something is coming in, look at what is GOING OUT"

We know the infant is soon to arrive, and is coming in and often that is enough to distract the medical teams from the real work....because this is not what's really going on... this is not the question we apply to the mother....what's going out in her? The maiden is going out, motherhood is coming in....she is about to give birth to herself as a mother.

She is no longer, never again, not this lifetime, the maiden...oh she could be married, but she now has a different role in this world, and no matter how many babies she has, every time she enters the birthing pool, she faces herself again. Often second time moms are struggling with the new infant coming in, and the time lost for the older child. It's underlying theme is still the woman is again about to give birth to herself as the mother of this new child.

“However it remains a choice point and when the brain bi-passes the prefrontal cortex, the reasoning part, and shoots directly to the ancient brain, the flight or flight hormones often take over our choices for us. Then it needs more than reason, and it takes about 1 hour to reabsorb the catecholamine through the system. That’s a long time during labour, often too long and our choices are removed for us.

Michel Odent, the famous French OB said:

“Pay attention to the injustices and cruelties done to an infant at birth by society and you are witness the values of the society itself.”

We are now entering a new phase in humanity. At a very deep core level we all get this….be kinder to each other. Death is an illusion, so is separation and abandonment, however, we continue to feed ourselves regular installments that reinforce our addictions to negative priming

Kathy Welter-Nichols,
Author: MY BIRTH My Way NLP: As a birth model for change....releasing 2009

NLP : A Birth Model for Change

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Get The Life You Want

It has been a while since Richard Bandler had a book published so I was looking forward to getting my hands on 'Get The Life You Want'.

Now many books by Bandler are based on transcripts of seminars, think 'Using Your Brain' or 'Frogs Into Princes', both co-authored by John Grinder. Either that or they are the early 'Magic In Action' books, hard to read (in my opinion), and not much fun.

So What's This Book All About?

It's divided into sections, with the text written (or probably spoken, by the way it reads), and each section is aimed at dealing with a specific human 'issue', like, say, 'interview nerves'. Then typically there is a submodailty style exercise for you to do to integrate the 'trancey' words of the man himself.

The Exercises

Now some people will find the exercises easy, and some people will find them less easy, and they take a fair bit of practice in any event so my advice is this. If you find them easy then go ahead and do them, If you don't then find an NLP Practitioner who is comfortable enough with them and capable enough to be your guide.

Play

For goodness sake play with the exercises, treat them as a game, for as Bandler once said, 'what happens when people take things seriously is they end up taking things seriously'.

Or Just Read The Book And Ignore The Exercises

That's what I did. I just read it, and then read it again. I spoke to a couple of NLP trainers who said they thought that it was all a bit too basic but firstly this book is aimed at the general public, and secondly, the hypnotic language that RB uses throughout the text is far from basic. It may look straightforward, and is ever so easy to read, but it's far from 'basic'

Will It Sell?

'Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming' is not a nice snappy title like 'I Can Make You Rich', so it probably won't sell as many copies. Which is a shame, because although there's nothing wrong with Paul McKenna's books, 'Get The Life You Want' is so much better.

In my opinion