Premature Ejaculation

The Squeeze Technique is often recommended as a treatment for premature ejaculation. This technique involves suitable stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping, and squeezing the penis until arousal diminishes. This procedure is then repeated.

This frustrating affair is aimed at getting the man to learn how to control his arousal and gain control over his ejaculatory response. It involves an awful lot of masturbation (with, or without, a partner) and takes some time to work, if indeed it works at all.

There is a superior technique that is derived from certain yoga practices that is similar and much more effective. Essentially the man masturbates until the point just before orgasm and then stops. There is no squeezing.

He waits only until the physical need to orgasm subsides by deliberately relaxing the muscles involved in ejaculation. He then starts again to the point just before orgasm. This is repeated as much as possible during each experimental session. Often, in the early stages of experimentation, orgasm will follow a few seconds later in the absence of any ongoing stimulation. This is just fine and is part of the training. You see, the trick here is the begin to learn to separate the orgasm from the muscle contractions of ejaculation. So, if orgasm does occur, it is important not offer any further stimulation, but instead relax the penis and muscles in the perineum (that's the bit between testicles and anus).

At first, during early experiments the typical experience men have is that ejaculation occurs quickly. This is just fine as the response does take a bit of time to develop. Remember, the most important aspect is to relax those crucial muscles during the orgasm.

What starts to develop is the phenomena of the "dry orgasm" and the "multiple orgasm." With sufficient practice, the orgasm can occur with minimal, or even not at all, ejaculation. Invariably, the man will also begin to experience multiple "mini-orgasms" before a full orgasm accompanied by full ejaculation occurs. Even with what appears to be full ejaculation, the sensitisation response in the penis glans that usually prevents further stimulation may not develop and further orgasm with lesser ejaculation is often possible. Without this sensitisation response, the man may feel that whilst he has orgasmed but is not yet "spent".

This, gentlemen, is the aim, and puts you fully in control.

Over Excitability
In any given social group, the least emotionally responsive person who promotes the biggest emotional response from other people will be the most dominant person. Their position is, "I am not excitable. You are."

Meanwhile, the most emotionally responsive person who is least able to promote emotional responses in others will be the least dominant person in the group. Their position is, "I am emotionally excitable. You are not." (Unless they get the sympathy vote, of course).
Often, but by no means always, the person with PE will be the over-excitable one of the group.
Confidence

PE can rapidly affect a man's confidence, but also his level of confidence can rapidly affect his sexual performances. It is a vicious cycle and whilst the biological drive to have sex is ever present, the opportunity for sexual congress can fill him with dread, anxiety and fear.

A lot of confidence comes down to self identity and self-assurance. It is important to explore just how someone imagines themselves to be. Some men will imagine themselves as a sexual failure - and often they did so before they even had any form of sexual experience to prove otherwise. This will often stem from how they saw themselves when they were younger, their perceived place in the social hierarchy amongst their peers and families, and so on.

This place-in-the-social-hierarchy is an important area. In men with either premature ejaculation or psychogenic impotence (as opposed to impotence from a medical disorder) they often are having (or, not having) sex with someone that they view as being more socially dominant, or higher up the social hierarchy than themselves. When people feel intimidated by another person, they rarely perform well, regardless of the situation.

What Therapy Entails
As with any symptom that usually manifests in the body I want you to see a doctor first before any hypnotherapy and NLP sessions.

Any embarrassment at seeking help passes quickly, enabling the work to move onward. What I often examine are issues of identity, emotional control, clearing out mental and emotional baggage and how to gain greater control over your thinking and emotions. Now, it is important to know that you won't neceaasrily be magically cured of your PE - it might well take a bit of time and practice on your own before things start to noticably change. The aim of the session is to get you pointed in the right direction to put you firmly in control.

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